To not go to this funeral?

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My aunt died recently. In very horrible circumstances. However, she's caused so much hurt and upset in the family for years to everyone. I caught her and my dad in bed together when I was a kid and they never faced any repercussions. I don't want to go to the funeral and pay my respects to someone who caused so much pain. My parent will have lots of sibling support. Would I be unreasonable not to go?

No, just because she’s dead doesn’t mean she’s not a horrible person. Don’t go.

If you don’t want to go then don’t go, what’s the point in going to pay respects to someone you don’t respect

YANBU to not go under the circumstances.

There is no obligation on you to go this funeral if you didn't respect or like her.

I didn't go to my father's funeral. Nor my brother's. And I wish I hadn't gone to my mother's.

Do what is best for you OP. What you feel is right.

Go or don’t go depending on what is right for you but be aware that funerals are for the living so if not going will be tough for people you care about think about them.

I also remind you it takes 2 to tango

Don't go.

Anyone asks - I caught her and my dad in bed together when I was a kid and they never faced any repercussions. I don't want to go to the funeral and pay my respects to someone who caused so much pain

No need to lie, just because she is dead doesn't all of a sudden make her a saint.

Absolutely not. Dont go if you don't want too.

No you are not obliged to go.
I guess she was your mum's sister?

Death rites are to help the living come to terms with their loss so you go if you need/want to support a family member who needs you.

If that is not the case you can choose not to go.

Don't go. Why would you?

I am not going to my aunt's funeral, when it happens. Nor did I go to my uncles. I was only 12 when my mother's abusive father died and she made me go, but left to my own devices I would not have gone to that either.

Being dead does not make them good people. And frankly I could not stomach any eulogies that made them out to be good people.