For context, my DD (A) and friend's DD (C) are both 14 and they've been friends since starting primary school and we've also been friends since then.
C has always been on the bigger side but since they've gone to high school, she has put on a lot of weight to the point i'd say she is now signifiantly overweight (I don't mean that in an unkind way but simply objectively) to the point that A has commented on it to me.
C's mum (J) has always had a bit of a blind spot about this and has regularly made comments around the subject that show a bit denial. Exampls being complaining about it being 'unfair' about bigger clothes being more expensive or the regular one of criticising C's dad when he's brought up the topic of her weight with her.
I've done my best to just stay well out of it and nod along as I know its a minefield. However J was round at mine this afternoon and again brought up something C's dad had said regarding her weight and finished by saying something to the effect of 'he's just ridiculous isn't he?'. I know i would have been best off staying neutral, but a couple of glasses of wine probably hadnt helped, and i just said 'I know it gets on your nerves but he is her dad and i can see that he's concerned about her'. J then responded saying 'what does that mean?'. I knew id probably put my foot in it at this point but i just said 'i'm just saying he is her dad and it's natural for a parent to worry about something like weight'.
The mood changed straight away and she finished her drink and left. Then a couple of hours later, shes sent me a text saying that i'm 'completely out of order for commenting on C's weight' and that i should 'keep my opinions to myself'. I havent replied yet.
I know my mistake was not just staying neutral with the whole thing but at the end of the day i was asked an opinion, and if i'm honest if it was my DD i would be concerned about it (though accept its not really my place to be concerned about someone else's DD).
Im actually quite annoyed about the whole thing but am i actually BU over the whole situation (saying anything in the first place and now being annoyed over it)?