To be really struggling with this

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So my step dad is currently in hospital and I’m taking my mum each day to see him . This man made my childhood hell and made me and my brother feel worthless . I have no good memories of my childhood with this man . I’m being the bigger person but it’s really mentally exhausting .

Is there any chance you could drop your mum off and collect her later, go and have a coffee whilst waiting etc? It’s odd that she still wants anything to do with him after he made your life so miserable.

Just say you can't take her everyday. On the days you do then just drop her off and collect her at a set time. On the other days she can get an Uber.

I would continue to take your mum but I wouldn't visit him. I'd arrange to see her at the main entrance in an hour or so and go for a tea.

You’re doing this for your mum, not him.
Keep your mental focus on her.

Give her taxi money if she can’t afford it?

Thanks for all the feedback . I took her yesterday but sat in the cafe . I can’t go back to how I was a few years ago . I’ve had lots of counselling to try and get over the way he treated us . I wont go back there . My mum always protected us from him but it was awful growing up with such a vile man. I actually feel sorry for him as he’s never interacted with his amazing family and grandchildren. Very sad and his loss