AIBU to not want to see my colleagues’ pants in the office?

[ThePussy]

I get that it’s hot, and we either have no a/c and fans or crappy a/c in the office but last week some of my colleagues looked like they were dressed for a day at the beach.

One turned up on Friday wearing a short, see through linen tunic that didn’t even cover her bum. She was wearing sturdy grey pants underneath (and a vest), and was clearly self conscious as she kept pulling the tunic down. Her friend was wearing a crop top and shorts.

Another, last week, was wearing a play suit that was so short that her bum cheeks hung out from underneath.

One of the men was in a tee shirt and cut off shorts. The shorts were so low slung, that the top of his boxers were on display.

I don’t require much from my colleagues - clean, tidy and clothed will do. But it’s an office, not a fucking beach. And we do deal with senior visitors - MPs, Ministers, Mayors, Diplomats and members of the public, all of whom turn up appropriately clad.

Do you have a dress policy at work, the usual smart casual - which generally means no arses hanging out (male and female).

Where do you work and why is no one telling them that’s not appropriate attire to meet an MP. This smells fishy

Meh!

I think people should dress however they're most comfortable in a heatwave.

Totally inappropriate in an office setting

I agree with dressing comfortably for the weather but it should at least be ‘office appropriate’. Our office has a casual dress code, we can wear jeans, trainers etc just no offensive slogans or logos.
I do sometimes have a pesky bra strap that becomes visible but it feels different to having my knickers on show! Plus I don’t wear sleeveless things to work, it’s more wide necked tops that I need to be careful about!

Yes, it used to be fairly formal, eg suit and tie, but is now more smart casual although the more senior staff dress smartly. It’s the younger members of staff who seem clueless, and no-one seems capable of telling them what is appropriate. I offered, but was told not to, as “she will take a mental health day as she will say it was triggering for her to be told off.”

We would be sent home to change. Quite rightly.

Sounds like a pretty typical civil service dress down. They insist on relaxing dress codes for summer that already barely exist.

Were they "sturdy grey pants" or were they shorts/gym knickers to stop her actually flashing her knickers?

That plus the vest would suggest she was trying not to be too revealing

Boxers above the waist line is just a look. If it's just the elastic band bit, and not their skidmarked fabric too, it doesn't bother me

I don’t know if they were gym knickers, but they looked like pants. The boxers were the elastic and a good few inches of fabric.

I know it’s not the subject but how on earth is this new generation supposed to be managed?

Everything is triggering, projecting, gaslighting, trauma inducing, boundaries,…

You’re right! No one goes to work to endure the view of their colleagues ass.

Must be very triggering for you! Don’t forget to take a day off.

If someone is triggered by a simple adult to adult conversation about appropriate dress wear in the office, I’d suggest they are not resilient or well enough to be in an office environment.

If someone said that to me I’d be directing them to EAP for support and record it.

I can’t imagine caring this much about what coworkers wear unless you’re directly responsible for them.

Really?

What needs to happen here is an email to everyone reminding them of the dress policy.

Anyone ignoring it is spoken with.

Anyone taking a mental health day from being triggered by the conversation gets signposted to EAP and it recorded. Too many days will prompt a different conversation.

Too many managers are scared to do the obvious and right thing so to not upset one person, everyone else is upset.

Equally too many people are confusing/abusing genuine mental health conditions that need support and wondering why employers resort to not wanting to hire permanent staff. The cost and burden of ridiculousness is too high.

Pull the other one, it's got bells on.

I am guessing you are the same poster who posted about wearing a low cut top at the office, pretending to be clueless.

Do you have a dress code policy? If not, it sounds like you need one!!

Oh come on. People are going to have to be pretty gullable to believe this.
What is the actual point of your made up story? Is it to belittle younger people because you are feeling old? Is it to try and appeal to to the people who love to try and feel superior by belittling the younger generations ? Just like to try and stir up divisions?

With a username like that too.

I offered, but was told not to, as “she will take a mental health day as she will say it was triggering for her to be told off.”

As my old teacher used to say, “And I’m Cleopatra and the asp’s in my handbag”.

Contact senior managers and raise your concerns and suggest they consider a dress code. Responsibility for the image of the workplace with visitors, and how staff represent it lies with them. If they don't see a problem, then there's nothing else you can do, other than avoid staring at your colleagues too much.

What does your company dress code say. You can either raise a grievance with HR as they are going against it - or the dresss code says nothing and they’re fine

It's perfectly possible to dress in a heat appropriate way that's also respectable. Shift dresses, floaty dresses, chinos, longer smart shorts and linen shirts. Go to a Med country and people don't look like they've crawled off the beach.

Boxers above the waist of trousers is not an office look, surely?