To feel down about who I am?

[Bloodintowinetakemybodyinstead]

I just don't know how to be charismatic and fun. People seem to like me and think I'm nice but I don't have any really close friendships and most people are sort of meh about me.

The thing is I think I've got a good sense of humour and I like to have a laugh. I'm interested in people and a good listener.
However I don't seem to have this silly, goofy side that people want. I don't know what it is or how to get it, sometimes funny things happen naturally but I'm not one of those people where I can say or do something and people will be in stitches laughing.

People seem to want a certain type of person and I'm fed up with having no close friends. I do open up and be vulnerable, I think I'm positive, supportive and interesting.
I'm not 'just nice' as is pointed out on here.
I can be fairly reserved, but fed up with it being an issue.

Not sure there's much I can do? I'm starting a new hobby next week which will hopefully help, i think though there's just a vibe i give off which puts people off. Anyone else?

I'm mid 30s.

I’ve got a number of friends who have similar characteristics to you OP! You sound like you are / would be a great friend, but perhaps you just haven’t found your right tribe yet. You’re absolutely going about it the right way with trying new hobbies. Could you try meetup groups or volunteering too?

please don’t get down about it - it gets increasingly hard to make friends as we get older (easier said than done, I know).

I think you’re creating a straw man here — I don’t think everyone does want ‘silly’ and ‘goofy’. I have friends who range from reserved and serious to comical party people. My only requirement is ‘interesting’. People who are fully engaged with the world and interested in it.

Thank you, I know you are right but it does feel that way sometimes. That people aren't having real fun with me, but I don't know how to make that happen?

I used to have a friend and we went on holiday once. She was taking photos of me and told me I needed to do silly poses, jump in the air etc. To 'let loose'

That wasn't me though, it felt inauthentic.

I think the second people start either thinking about who they are, or how they can change how other people feel about them, they’re gone. The person you describe who you assume everyone likes, isn’t the only type to have friends. Make this hobby about figuring out your hobby and chat to people about it at the hobby but don’t make it a friend finding mission. Happy content you is a lot more likely to be happy then trying to find someone you.

Your mate sounds insufferable! Fuck that, reserved is much better