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Issue with children playing in communal car park

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Cazza2024 · 28/06/2025 18:32

I’ve lived in a housing association flat for almost 10 years. About 18 months ago, the kids from the flat downstairs started playing in the communal area. Then the kids from my floor began playing with them too. At first, it was great to see them all playing together — they weren’t too loud and they didn’t stay out for hours on end.

Fast-forward to about 12 months ago, and children from other blocks also started coming to play in our communal area. Sometimes there were so many children that I’d struggle to get out of the main door. They’d play for hours at a time, screaming, shouting, arguing, and crying. They also started playing in the car park.

Our car park has a stacker system — the parking bays work like an elevator, so cars sit on top of each other. My parking bay is next to a wall, and I have zero visibility of what’s coming around the corner — it’s a complete blind spot.

There have been several times when kids ran at speed around that corner. I couldn’t see them until the last second, which really worries me because of the obvious safety risk. I contacted the housing association last summer and sent photos showing my car, the bay, and the blind spot. About two months later, they sent a text message to all residents stating that children are forbidden from playing in the car park.

In the last few weeks, the noise from the kids playing has been really loud again. It got to the point where they were running up to our front doors and banging into them. One Sunday, they were screaming, shouting, and arguing for four and a half hours straight. I could still hear them with my living room door shut.

So I complained to the housing association again — someone came to see me and spoke to the parents, and things improved for a while.

But then the kids started playing ball games on the communal green right by people’s windows. I didn’t complain, but I assume others did because a letter was sent out banning ball games anywhere on the complex.

On and off, the kids have continued to play in the car park. I’ve told a few of them it’s forbidden and explained that it’s dangerous. However, one parent from downstairs actually encourages his kids to play there, which undermines any safety measures.

Last Saturday, I switched on my engine and was about to pull out of my bay when a young girl on a scooter came whizzing around the corner. I sounded my horn and gave her a look that said, that’s not acceptable.

When I got home, I felt furious — I just don’t understand why any parent would be comfortable with their children playing in a car park. I was hit by a car myself and nearly lost my lower right leg — I had multiple surgeries over two years to save it — so safety is a huge concern for me. If I had hit that child, there could have been criminal and legal consequences too.

I’ve made multiple complaints to the housing association and called again after this near miss last week to follow up — but I haven’t heard back. I also contacted social services and the Health and Safety Executive, who asked me for photos. The kids were playing in the car park again last night, so I took a photo but deleted it because I felt terrible. I’m now considering involving a solicitor to get the housing association to respond.

It’s really starting to affect my wellbeing — I dread being at home now.

Has anyone experienced something similar? If you have, was there anything you did (other than moving) that helped you cope or helped the parents understand the seriousness of the situation?

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MrTiddlesTheCat · 28/06/2025 19:50

You're right about it being unsafe but what do you want the housing association to do?

Weirdaf1 · 28/06/2025 19:55

Until a solution is reached could you put up one of those mirrors people use to check blindspots?
I live rurally and there are some gateways with zero visibility onto the road so people hang a specific type of mirror that's helps them to see what's coming.

Balloonhearts · 28/06/2025 19:58

You're better to make friends with them. Atm they're just seeing you as that miserable cow upstairs, always moaning.

I always say hi to the kids in the carpark, gave one tips on how to do a better wheelie, always ask how they are. In return, they're really pleasant to me and if I ask them to move round the back because I have a headache or not to do something, they listen.

Then if you have a good relationship with them, you can just say: Guys, PLEASE don't come round that corner like that, it gives me heart failure because I can't see you from here, I'm convinced I'm going to end up running you over.

BarnOwlFlying · 28/06/2025 20:03

It’s difficult. It’s like residents that expect schools to stop parents parking badly: schools have no power over grown adults - they can ask but there’s not much more they can do. I assume it’s the same for housing associations.
At the end of the day some parents are just idiotic and, quite frankly, don’t care.

FumingTRex · 28/06/2025 20:04

It sounds frustrating, could you reverse park and come out forwards? The parents probably wont care until theres a serious accident, and hard to see what the HA can do. Banning ball games was a bit mean though. I assume these kids dont have gardens?

Cazza2024 · 28/06/2025 20:10

I don’t think I’m allowed to alter anything in the car park. But I could ask if the Housing Association could add a mirror. It’s a good suggestion if it’s feasible.

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Holiday24 · 28/06/2025 20:11

I think it's fine to tell them not to play in the car park but it seems unfair that you're complaining about them playing outside in general.

Have you tried asking them in person when you see them scooting around the playground, and explaining why it is unsafe to do so? Might be more effective than just sounding your horn.

Cazza2024 · 28/06/2025 20:13

We have a common directly opposite where we live and the woods are a 10 minute walk away. The common does have a main road either side of it, but it’s quite big. I’m unsure if playing ball there is truly safe though.

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Cazza2024 · 28/06/2025 20:16

I do reverse into the parking bay but I can’t see someone. One around the corner until they’re right in front of my bay. If I’ve driven off, I’d hit someone.

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parietal · 28/06/2025 20:17

Kids need somewhere to play. Push the HA to make a safe area and then they won’t use the car parks.

who on earth banned ball games? It would be much better to allow the ball games on the green and keep kids off the car area.

Cazza2024 · 28/06/2025 20:18

I’ve asked them to put up signs saying playing is forbidden and write to residents explaining again that the car park isn’t allowed.

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Cazza2024 · 28/06/2025 20:19

I don’t know who complained about the ball games.

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Cazza2024 · 28/06/2025 20:20

I haven’t complained about them playing outside in general. And I’ve told them several times that the car park is dangerous.

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jannier · 28/06/2025 20:26

Cazza2024 · 28/06/2025 20:13

We have a common directly opposite where we live and the woods are a 10 minute walk away. The common does have a main road either side of it, but it’s quite big. I’m unsure if playing ball there is truly safe though.

How do they safely get to the common? Would you let a child play in woods unsupervised?
It's terrible housing associations are not forced to make play areas. Never mind in a few years it will be teenagers hanging around all evening.

londongirl12 · 28/06/2025 20:27

It’s dangerous, as there could be a risk of the cars moving as well when they’re stacked. It’s not you moaning, it’s you trying to save a life! I’d take pictures again. Don’t feel guilty. How are the kids getting in there?

Cazza2024 · 28/06/2025 20:36

I wouldn’t let a child play unsupervised. That not what I said. I was pointing out that there is green space close to where we are but in reflection one of them may not be suitable.

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Iamatwork · 28/06/2025 20:40

It sounds really dangerous to let a DC play there, surely they could end up crushed? I'm not sure what you can do about it though as I expect that a parent that lets their DC play there isnt too bothered about the child's safety. My only thought would be to report to the police, who may send out a PCSO and discuss with the parents.

Cazza2024 · 28/06/2025 20:40

They get in to the car park via two entrances. I’m not taking photos as I really regret that action, hence why I deleted it afterwards .I took the photo as I was annoyed to see them playing again, particularly following the near-miss last weekend. But I’m with you on the gravity of the situation.

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Optimustime · 28/06/2025 20:44

I would put a mirror up regardless of what the HA allow and then I would start a campaign to put in a play park and/or skate park.

Cazza2024 · 28/06/2025 20:45

I think you’re right that they do see me as this miserable wotsit who lives upstairs. But I don’t think that they’d stop coming around its corner at speed if I was friendlier. My next door neighbour is friendly with them and she nearly hit one of them last year. She’s in the bay below me.

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Cazza2024 · 28/06/2025 23:10

I can’t just deface properly. There’s a process to follow and j could get into trouble. The outdoor green space isn’t big enough for a skate park. But a couple if swings and a slide might work. However, it’s then about who pays for it.

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