Do your siblings ask how you are and how things are in your life?

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My sister doesn't. And when I talk about something to do with me and my life, she brings it back to her and we continue talking about her. It feels hurtful.

2 of them do,2 of them don't.

No siblings but my close cousins are like that. Drives me batshit

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No.

I have four sisters and a brother. They all assume everything is ok unless I tell them otherwise.

Equally, they will tell me if there is something wrong, I hope. Otherwise, they talk about their children, travel and work.

To be fair, they can generally be relied on to respond in a crisis. It just has to be a major crisis. Needing help during chemotherapy counts as a crisis. Breaking up with my partner of 6 years does not. 🙄

Every family has different standards.

My sister does this too.

No my sister isn't like this , she will often ask how I am, as I do to her.

OP, maybe that is her way of telling you she understands how you feel. She can empathise because she has experienced something similar.

I literally can't remember the last time I had a conversation with my brother.

No not really. We see each other every couple of weeks when my parents organise something and I always make sure I ask her how she is (particularly at the moment as she's just had a baby) but she doesn't really ask about me, just superficial stuff! Not sure if it makes a difference but I'm the older one...

Yes they do.
Do you feel comfortable mentioning it? Even in a jokey way? “Hey! You haven’t asked me anything about me yet!”

My 3 siblings are very close with each other but leave me out

We dont talk on a deep level, we would say to each other how's work, how's kids etc to be polite but thats as far as it goes. But then I have brothers so probably different if I had sisters I dunno.

I just lost my husband so I get lots of phone calls from them both.
My older sister tends to talk about her illnesses and jumps from subject to subject in mid sentence so it can be confusing and tiring.
My younger sister has great empathy and kindness. We are on the same wavelength.
Love her to bits

No. We’ve drifted apart due to hugely divergent lifestyles and values, so we can’t relate to each other and would be of no help in each other’s respective life problems.

We text often, usually silly memes and the like, and generally like one another. But we’re not at all close anymore.

No. My db hasn't contacted me since my ds died last year. Hes dead to me.

It’s amazing that all five of your siblings are like this. Is it perhaps something you give off? Like a ‘got my shit together’ vibe? Sorry to hear they were no use when your relationship broke down, but I never know what to say in that instance, even with friends, as you never know how permanent a break-up it is and you don’t want to bad-mouth the ex and then they get back together (from experience…).

My dsis communicates by WhatsApp. It's reams of messages with the odd "OK" from me. Sometimes leaves me sing song voice notes.