“Meeting you was the worst decision of my life”

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We are 10 years in and H has just said that to me. Can you come back from that??

and the most alarming part is - I feel absolutely no hurt whatsoever about what he said..

The fact that you feel nothing about his nasty comment means no there's no future in this relationship

I think you’re right. I just don’t know how to leave.

Pedantically, meeting you wasn't a decision, it was an event. But I would take this to mean the relationship is over.

Phone a solicitor. Just make the first step the rest will fall into place

Do you actually want to come back from that?

I said those exact words to my ex and I meant it 100%.

Do you think he meant it, or was it said in anger?

Did any children overhear?

It kind of was a choice as we met online, so he chose to meet in person!

but yes - I think we are done.

Tell him and leaving you will be the best decision of mine.

No - they’re downstairs

Who knows. But I haven’t been happy for about 3/4 years if I really think about it.

Well he can’t form sentences that make sense, I’d find that a problem. He also sounds like a horrible person.

So on Monday morning, call a solicitor for a / to arrange a free half an hour advice session. That will change your life, good luck x

"Leaving you will be the best decision of mine" seems an appropriate response.

This sounds utterly bleak. For you, your husband and sadly, your children

Don't say much or interact with him much at all apart from pleasantries

Talk to a lawyer and make a plan to leave before you tell him it's over, get evidence of all the finances, ducks in a row etc.

I know that you're in pain right now but I'm excited for you and your happy future ahead ! X

And also pour all of your energy and free time and money into making yourself happy healthy and pretty it will put you in the best position when you're single. Go clothes shopping start gold lessons get your teeth whitened get Botox all of that stuff.

Just ignore him.

The question should be do you want to come back from that, and the answer should really be no.

If you felt nothing just nothing then he has becoming un important for you.
Its time to move on now.

If my husband said that to me I’d just laugh!
i know I’m the best thing that ever happened to him and any thing or any one else’s is a down grade 😂

My response to that would have been "well feel free to cash your chips in any fucking time you want!"

Oh my god. He knows full well that you can’t really come back from that and he doesn’t want you to. He is being deliberately and cynically horrible because he wants the relationship to end and he is too lazy and emotionally incompetent to end it himself so he’s trying to make you do it. He can’t be arsed to move out, he can’t be arsed to use his brain to initiate divorce and he can’t be arsed to explain his weeny penny problems to other people so he wants you to be the bad guy so he can tell his mummy/daddy/friends that you left him.

Do you know what would really annoy and flummox the lazy git? If you calmly and unemotionally said something like “I’m sorry you feel that way and I understand that means that you want to end the relationship. I respect YOUR decision. What are do YOU plan to do?”

What a wanker