DP’s ex hates me

[Pinkdreams]

There’s a long standing drama with the me and DPs ex, she doesn’t like me, never has and blames me for everything, she’s very jealous and bitter, which is fine but she prevents me from actually spending time with their DD. We go through stages where she fine with us having her and then all of a sudden (usually if she doesn’t get her way or I don’t suck up to her), she’ll kick off and prevent contact, then it goes back to just DP allowed to spend time with her and this is usually a quick trip to see her after school or round to hers or something, if he tries to plan something for the day she’ll say they’re busy. Most recently DP was going to attend a school event for their DD and said he would bring our daughter, she said yeah fine as long as I’m not there, which I wouldn’t go to something no like that anyway as I know it might be awkward for the ex. I’m just ranting really, I feel so bad their DD has to miss out on seeing her sister (our DD) and spending proper time with her dad and his family, I’ve always been go good to her and treat her like my own, it really sucks that women can’t put their kids first. Will it ever be normal? We’ve had almost 4 years of this and it’s so sad.

I'd lay responsibility firmly at the feet of your dp. He let his ex down badly, now he won't get a court order to see his daughter regularly. And if you were the affair partner, her ill feeling towards you is not unnatural.

Have you considered that perhaps his dd doesn't actually want to see you or your child. There must be quite an age gap between the two girls.

I have a ds who has no desire to see his much older half-sister. He says she's bossy and boring. He doesn't like his dad's new woman either, so prefers to see his dad out or at our house. It's not my choice, I'm not keen having ex in my home, but he is ds' visitor. New woman is always inviting ds to go and stay but he isn't interested. I suspect I get the blame.

I suggest you leave them alone, let your dp manage his relationship with his dd, and wait for them to include your dd.

Your DP needs to take her to court so she can't just stop contact.

It irks me when fathers complain about their exes 'not letting him see the kids.'