To ask for proof re STI status

[Garfunkelsroadie]

WWYD in this situation… Boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a couple of months. All going great. A few weeks ago we discussed ditching condoms. I have a coil so no pregnancy risk.
We agreed to get STI tests just for reassurance. I don’t suspect that he has any, and I know I don’t. But we got the tests anyway.
It’s one of these places where they text you the results, either saying ‘No problem’ or ‘Call this number because we need to talk to you’.
Yesterday we got our results. He rang to tell me he’d got the all clear. Then he came over for the night and when I showed him my text (also all clear) he told me he’d deleted his! I asked why and he said it was just what he often does with texts.

So now I have no proof!

I do believe him. But it’s so annoying because the whole point was that we would have reassurance.

So last night was condoms again.

What would you do? Ask for another test?

Yes definitely

Would the result not still be on the NHS app?

Yes it’s only been a few months. I’d want proof too.

I’d tell him the whole point was for you both to have reassurance and now you don’t because he has deleted text. Get him to ask the clinic to resend the text.

If he has an iPhone there is a deleted messages folder.

Yes I think that’s the sensible thing to do. TBF to him he was apologetic and said it was just a natural response to delete texts (I have seen his phone and this is true, he deletes almost every text he ever gets).

Hopefully this is it - but didn't you ask him to get them to resend the text? That would be my first reaction! Followed by "are you an idiot?" 😂

Obviously there's a chance he already knows he has an STI and doesn't care about transmitting it to you, but sounds like that's unlikely.

I do believe him. But it’s so annoying because the whole point was that we would have reassurance.

Do you actually believe him though? If you did his word would be enough of a reassurance for you because you trust what he’s telling you.
Obviously the thing to do would be check the nhs app or he asks them to resend the text message. I definitely wouldn’t go no condoms because it doesn’t sound like you do believe him… which is fair enough after only a couple of months

I believe him, but I also believed myself that I didn’t have one. Always best to check though as you never know.

Why would you go to the bother of testing to show a partner you have no stis then delete the proof?

Trust, but verify!

Don't they still have the results on his electronic medical record? I do even when results are texted to me (but I am in US.

something like herpes can lay dormant and resurface though, so even a test isn’t conclusive.