Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Living at home at 25, is it common?

92 replies

makethenet · 27/06/2025 23:44

If you have DC around the age of 25, do you they still live at home?

DS is 25 and single and is still living at home saving for a mortgage, he works in a job at the moment where I am not sure how eh could manage financially by himself. His take home pay is around £1600 per month

OP posts:
MrsSkylerWhite · 27/06/2025 23:47

Yes, incredibly common.
our youngest is buying their first home atm, because we can finance a big percentage of the asking price. Without our help, no chance.

Cabinetbat23 · 27/06/2025 23:48

Very very common. The same people who would have them move out at 20 into a house share will slag them off for not getting on the property ladder. It is very very difficult to rent and save for a deposit. Best bet is to stay at home.

Allywill · 27/06/2025 23:52

My daughter is 26 and lives at home, her boyfriend also lives with his parents, they are currently looking to buy as have managed to save up a decent deposit by doing that.

Miley23 · 27/06/2025 23:55

My 25 year old is renting with his gf. My 24 year old is still at home but thinking of buying on his own soon.

Theunamedcat · 27/06/2025 23:59

Dd is out of the home but she left the area she is happy in her house share though got used to living like that in university

I'm not sure her brother will leave as early

Rewis · 28/06/2025 00:03

The statistics seems to be a bit mixed. But one statista statistics averages to about 30% of 25yo living with parents in the UK. Some say 18% and some closer to 50% but it depends if it is 20-25yo or 25-30+yo.
But fair to say that regardless a significant portion of 25yo lives with parents. Men more than women.

yeesh · 28/06/2025 00:07

Quite normal these days

thishouseisashittip · 28/06/2025 00:10

My 25 year old is still living at home. Says she is never moving out 🥴🤣. She probably won't either! My brother is 41 and still lives at home with our mum!

BeliesBelief · 28/06/2025 00:11

Take home pay of £1600 is very low - is he working full time? Is he in a career where his salary is likely to improve? On that salary, he doesn’t have a chance of moving out.

BorrowersAreVermin · 28/06/2025 00:14

I lived at home until I was 25, having worked from being 18. I moved out to live with DP (and 17 years later I still do).

I contributed financially, DM was a single mother and I have two younger siblings. In fact my younger brother had moved out twice before I did, but he didn't really get on with DM.

I've got a friend who lived with his parents until his mid-30s. Running his own business all the while. Again, he only moved out when his relationship with his partner reached a stage they started living together.

I still live in the city I grew up in, DP moved here for uni, but I would love to think that DS could stay with us for as long as he feels comfortable. He'd hopefully have the advantage of not such a great need to contribute and parents who are a bit more financially savvy too.

TheAutumnCrow · 28/06/2025 00:27

BeliesBelief · 28/06/2025 00:11

Take home pay of £1600 is very low - is he working full time? Is he in a career where his salary is likely to improve? On that salary, he doesn’t have a chance of moving out.

That’s actually a bit above NMW. Scary, isn’t it?

Loads of 20somethings are on pay like this, and are not necessarily unskilled. Some are graduates, some have years of experience, some are in charge of offices / kitchens / shops.

Rewis · 28/06/2025 00:41

BeliesBelief · 28/06/2025 00:11

Take home pay of £1600 is very low - is he working full time? Is he in a career where his salary is likely to improve? On that salary, he doesn’t have a chance of moving out.

Slightly below the average starting salary of a university graduate

Noshadelamp · 28/06/2025 02:01

Very common, especially after university. One of my dds came back home for about a year, and my other dd recently come back foe a few months but can see it being longer.
About half my dcs friends are in the same position, either not left home or have needed to go back home for a time.

nex18 · 28/06/2025 02:09

Not normal here, dd is 22 she left home to go to uni and got a job in her uni town when she graduated.

vodkaredbullgirl · 28/06/2025 02:12

Can't get rid of mine 😂

Sweetpea59 · 28/06/2025 02:24

My 27 year old ds still half lives with us. He's currently deployed with the RAF so it's not worth getting his own place. He therefore saves a shed load of money.
His salary would be considered low on here, & he'd struggle if he lived out on his own.
Disgusting really, when people could potentially put their life on the line in their job and still receive low pay.
He's creeping towards 28, not really living independently, in the forces & on a comparatively low salary. All potentially red flags by MN standards 🤷

Icequeen01 · 28/06/2025 02:40

My DS is 25 and still lives at home. He’s showing no sign of leaving although he does own a flat which he bought when he was 19 as he received an inheritance which gave him a good deposit. He has rented out the flat since he bought it and this helped towards some of his uni costs. He wouldn’t want to live in his flat himself due to its location. When he decides it’s time to get his own place he will sell the flat. To be honest I do wonder if he will ever move out as he has it too comfortable at home!

abracadabra1980 · 28/06/2025 02:43

I would think quite normal these days. My DC are both on the ladder now with help from my exH and are both now in professional jobs post Uni. I would be really unhappy if they were paying rent, lining someone else’s pocket. We live up north though and I appreciate this is far harder in the south east.

Izzabellasasperella · 28/06/2025 03:24

Yes I think it’s becoming common now. Renting is so expensive and properties or rent in the private sector are scarce where we live. I have my dd(25) her fiancée (26) and my son(22) living in my house. We have the space and all get on really well.
When I moved out (a very long time ago😀) rental accommodation was a bedsit in a hmo but they have disappeared in our area.
A deposit for a mortgage is unaffordable for most young people too.
Nearly all of my friends who own their own homes have have had help (inheritance, right to buy council house sold on at a profit, family money or they bought when deposits were low and mortgages were cheaper)
This country has a housing crisis but our government is doing nothing for our young people.

Strugglingsoul19 · 28/06/2025 04:42

BeliesBelief · 28/06/2025 00:11

Take home pay of £1600 is very low - is he working full time? Is he in a career where his salary is likely to improve? On that salary, he doesn’t have a chance of moving out.

His only 25 though there is many careers that take longer.
I had only been qualified a year after a 5 year degree at 25.
nearly 10 years later and I’m on 75k a year.

stayathomer · 28/06/2025 04:44

Work with a ton of twenty something year olds and they all live at home as far as I can see. I feel sorry for their generation, they should be enjoying their freedom!

EleanorReally · 28/06/2025 04:56

DS didnt leave for a while,
my own dm was rude to him about it

Badbadbunny · 28/06/2025 04:57

Nearly all my sons school friends still live at home as do some of his uni graduate flat mates. He has his own flat but that’s because there are no jobs in his profession within commuting distance from our home. Most of his friends have become teachers or other professions with more local job opportunities closer to their family homes. He was the first of his friendship group to get his own place but we helped him as he wouldn’t have been able to afford it on his own.

Wonderwall23 · 28/06/2025 06:25

It might be more common now but it's not a 'these days' thing.

All my friends went to Uni and moved back home to save afterwards...staying until our mid to late 20s and then buying our houses by a combination of doing so with a partner (mostly), saving ourselves and a bit of help from parents. This was nearly 20 years ago.

Those of us who lived at home for longer got on the property ladder before those who moved out earlier. So I don't understand why it seems to be judged on mumsnet...seems really short-sighted to me.

Agix · 28/06/2025 06:35

Both my partner and I lived with our parents until we could afford to buy our home. If we had to leave earlier, neither of us would have been able to save due to the costs of renting.

Everyone we know who has managed to buy a home have either stayed with parents rent free until buying, or had wealthy parents who gifted them a big chunk of what they needed.

Everyone I know who moved out of their parents to rent, or paid their parents rent (like nearer actual rent amounts, not just token £10/ week board) are either still renting with no prospect of buying a home, or still with parents at nearing 40 with no prospect of buying a home.