To stop dating someone because he went to a Chris Brown concert?

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He’s been great in other ways but I found out he bought tickets and went to see Chris Brown live and honestly it’s made me pause. I know people “separate the art from the artist” but for me, supporting someone with such a history of abuse doesn’t sit right. It’s not about policing his taste, it’s about what it says about his values. AIBU to think this is a legitimate dealbreaker?

Yeah I think it would be for me too, yanbu.

Yep , that is all .

It depends. I wouldn't leave an otherwise ideal man if he'd been dragged there at gunpoint or drugged in someway - or tricked by some elaborate scheme where he was told it was Taylor Swift but was blindfolded until he was inside and tied to a chair...

Yeah not for me. I agree with you. You can't hide under the rock with this one. It's well known and he's made a choice.

No way. He’s showing you who he is

You can stop dating someone for literally any reason, you don't need an excuse. There are so many male artists that have been sexually inappropriate or committed Dv though that you're gonna struggle to date anyone that's not watched them or listeed to them. Or is it only Chris Brown that you have a problem with?

There's also quite alot who haven't committed dv

You’re right that I don’t need a reason and I agree that the list of problematic artists is sadly long. For me it’s not about being pure or perfect but there’s something about actively choosing to support someone with such a well-documented and repeated history of abuse, especially when it’s public knowledge, that’s gives me pause. Chris Brown is a standout example for me but it’s not just him. We all have lines and I guess that’s ones of mine.

Plenty of women I know went too. Would you dump a friendship if they went too?

I do think romantic relationships carry different weight for me than friendships especially when it comes to shared values. I might not cut off a friend but it would change how I see them and I’d probably have a conversation about it. With someone I’m dating, I’m looking for alignment on certain things from the start and this gave me insight I couldn’t ignore.

Yikes, I can see why you would be upset and why this would give you pause. There is a big difference between singing along to a song on the radio and actually making a decision to go pay to see a scumbag like that at one of his concerts.

It could, I suppose, be that the guy is utterly clueless. But that's less likely in this case because Chris Brown, as I understand it, references his abysmal behaviour in his own song lyrics. Plus social media hasn't exactly kept quiet about his many MANY scandalous activities.

You could ask him why he is giving his money to a guy who obviously treats women like garbage, views women as being objects rather than equals, and thinks it is appropriate to use physical, emotional, and verbal abuse. Be open with him and say it raises concerning questions in your mind about how he actually views women, because anyone who views women as equals would never condone Brown's behaviour, let alone want to support Brown's career at this point.

Not sure how long you've been dating this guy but you may still be in that lovebombing/honeymoon phase where he's on his best behaviour and everything seems lovely. In an odd way it's good that this situation has presented itself - you may have spent a lot more time with the guy before you found out stuff like this about him. Seems to me that this is indeed a big red flag. Violence against women is never ever acceptable - and you deserve to be with someone who wants to support and empower women, not their abusers.

Sadly there are women who are so lacking in self esteem that they are willing to overlook horrific behaviour committed by celebrities. Some of them have problems with internalised misogyny. Others have a "I can fix him" mentality. Others are so deluded that they think the women that abusers like him beat "deserved" it. It's all incredibly sad and grotty.

I don't know anyone who would go to a Chris Brown concert - but then again I tend to have friends who find violence against women (and against anyone else) to be abhorrent. So the chances of my knowing a person who would go to a Chris Brown concert are slim to none. Maybe you need to ask yourself why you know "plenty of women" who are so lacking in self respect/respect for other women that they would support an abuser like him?? Pick another celeb if you lilke: why do so many women still support people like Conor McGregor? Donald Trump??? it's truly bizarre but tehre we go - just proves how misogynistic and sexist society still is.

i keep meaning to remove r kelly from my liked songs!!!😫

To be honest I've never heard of him. But could they like his music but be unaware of any of the domestic abuse accusations?

Even based on music taste alone I'd leave him.

He’s a massive prick who was domestically violent to Rihanna so I couldn’t give him my money.

a bit like lost prophets, I like last train home, but it’s off the playlist now as the lead singer tried to have sex with a baby.

I don’t know how people ignore this stuff and bank roll them. I guess some people don’t care she was beaten black and blue by him?

I like “Remix to Ignition”, but I wouldn’t pay R Kelly in any way.

Chris Brown concert is too far.

The Kardashians have a lot to answer for as a collective, but when Kendall featured on a Chris Brown track, that was the lowest they could get for me.

Dv is generally romantic relationships. Not comparable

None of my friends would go and see Chris Brown and if they did, I doubt we’d be friends for much longer.

It would for me.