I’m low-contact with my mum and completely estranged from my dad due to longstanding abuse and boundary violations. My mum was often an enabler in the past and while we’ve had some limited contact recently, I’ve made it clear I want no relationship with my dad. But they’re still married and that’s not going to change.
I’m very newly engaged and I don’t see how I could possibly invite just my mum. Not because I’d want to include him, I absolutely don’t, but because the practical reality is, she might not come alone. Or if she did, there’d be massive pressure, drama or fallout behind the scenes.
Is it ever actually feasible to invite one parent and not the other when they’re still together? AIBU to think it’s just not worth the emotional cost?