to feel somewhat disappointed that dh said he's going to give me money for my birthday

[brimfull]

am I an ungrateful cow?

would be more of a surprise to get a pressie - does he usually get something for you?

well he usually asks me what I want and I buy it.Clothes or something.

Can be tricky for them! could he choose some jewelry instead?

mmm tricky one....

Do you think you are hard to please discerning?

My DH just asks me outright what I would like for my birthday .. he either doesn't pick up my hints or prefers to avoid the shops and let me do the shopping myself...

well I'd whoop all the way to the shops, so maybe just a leetle ungrateful? Much more fun to go out shopping for yourself than to have to pretend you like what he chose when you don't, or to go through the 'shall I return it/spare his feelings' dilemma?

I dunno, I got a watch from Dh for my birthday at the beginning of the month and while it is very nice, it's firstly not really 'me' and secondly I never remember to look at the darned thing...if I remember to put it on! He did say I could change it if I didn't like it, but what do you say....I don't want to hurt his feelings when he has put the effort into choosing it for me.

So perhaps it is better to receive some money, you can get what you want then.

Me and DH never give eachother presents at birthdays. We go out for a meal or to do the theatre. I can never really think of anything I want. I buy what I want anyway, so rather "do" something together.

same here Fairymum. We buy eachother little gifts at other times, just cos we feel like it, but tbh for more expensive things I'd buy them myself as I know exactly what i like. We tend to do something nice together instead.

well I haven't said I am disappointed .

I feel like an ungrateful cow though.Will accept graciously .

Why do you feel that way??

because I should be grateful for anything really

Ww have joint finances, so actual money would be very odd.

Sometimes I have wanted something in particular and we have gone together to choose it, which is nice.

we have joint finances as well

which is why I think it's odd as well
I wouldn't give him money .

If I want something expensive we both have to agree to it obviously.

I think I'd just like him to make a bit of an effort.

i often buy my gift from dh. i like it as i don't often go out and spend money on myself...often a bag or an outfit or jewellery.

think there's a similar tradition after I have a baby (hope so anyway as baby's due any day and i feel a shopping spree coming on!)

Quite.

Now if he said, "what do you want? Let's go out and the weekend and see if we can find it", that would be better I think. I quite like looking together for something. And DH loathes shopping, so he is certainly making an effort there

yes that would be nice madonna

ggirl i'd feel a little disappointed too, to me its all about the thought/effort of thinking what you would actually like

obviously drop hints or if there is something inparticular you'd like go out together shopping, otherwise i personally think its quite lazy to give your partner/spouse money unless they have requested it

both myself and my dp have just had our bdays and we agreed we'd only get a few token gifts 'from the dc' for each other he got me some jewellery from Next and a couple of CD's he knew i'd like, didn't matter that it was only a couple of token bits, it could have been a surprise picnic in the park and it wouldn't have mattered it was the fact that he had thought about what i'd like that meant more - but then i am a bit of a romantic

sparkles-YES!I don't give a jot if he buys me a mars bar and wraps it up,I would be thrilled with a surprise anything actually.It's all to do with the thought put into it and he just doesn't.

Mine forgot my birthday last year. It isn't hard. It's exactly 6 months before/after his. This year he asked me what I wanted and I said I would like money toward something that I want(told him item, told him total cost and keep in mind that it is £200 and he's a highish earner). He gave me half, which is why I still want it!
Men are either thoughtful or they're not. Don't worry about it ggirl, they don't improve much!

my sister's dh is rubbish at buying presents always has been i really feel for her as she gets so upset about it then i feel guilty saying what dp has got me for my birthday/christmas, bless her this year he didn't get her anything as they went away (for his birthday ) and she paid for it!! he really is clueless

just jokingly said to dh about making an effort and that money was lazy,so he said he'd try!

Will look forward to my surprise and promise to love it

i'd kick my dh in his penjo and make it into a fanjo

shows no thought or consideration - its a i can't be fucked tryin' gesture.

well fuck that!

fingers crossed it comes up with something good for you

he not it sorry!