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Are children of teachers always this bad or have we had bad luck?

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JapaneseMaggie · 27/06/2025 11:33

DS has had very few problems at school, has lots of friends and different friendship groups. Few fall outs but always dealt with and moved on from quickly, his behaviour is very good, no issues in class etc. He’s had two big fall outs with two boys over the past 4 years. One ended in a formal complaint from us as the school were shocking in how it was dealt with then an apology and admission of wrong doing, the second seems to be heading the same way. We knew with the first one that his dad is a teacher, although not at the school. This second one we’ve learnt that both parents are teachers/senco again in different schools. There is a huge difference in how these fall outs have been dealt with compared to others, and the fall outs seem far more intense and instant separation at play times.

It’s two AIBU really. Firstly are children of teachers generally like this? Another friend has a child in another school who was bullied by the son of the headteacher at my DS school ironically.

And secondly, is this school siding more with children that are from parents in the same profession or am I paranoid?

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nadine90 · 27/06/2025 15:07

Nope. Daughter of teachers here, me and my siblings were all good as gold.

Covidwoes · 27/06/2025 15:17

It’s a coincidence OP. I’m a teacher, and there are no such issues with my DDs.

honeyrider · 27/06/2025 15:46

The two bullies in one of my son's class in primary school each had a parent teaching in the same school. They got away with it and one would regularly say she could do what she wanted because her daddy was a teacher there. He was a thug so the apple didn't fall far from the tree.

That said a lot of children who have parents that are teachers are just as well behaved as the rest of the well behaved children.

User79853257976 · 27/06/2025 16:00

JapaneseMaggie · 27/06/2025 11:53

The first one decided he didn’t want to be friends with DS anymore. They’d grown apart but then he started telling people that DS had bullied him, including the other children and his mother. His mother approached DS on the playground about this. Both myself and his dad were insisting that the school looked into this as if DS was bullying we wanted to sort it out. School said no DS wasn’t bullying, just a case of two boys no longer getting on, however this message that DS was a bully was continued by the boy and his parent.

The second one is more DS grew away from the child, the child wanted to be friends with him still and see DS out of school, DS said no, boy starts being horrible directly to DS and says “I’m being horrible because you won’t be friends with me” . Again school say two boys that just don’t get on anymore.

Sounds like your son is having friendship issues rather than being targeted. The first one - maybe he was upset/angry and the child (yes, child!) interpreted it as bullying because it made him feel uncomfortable. You want his parents and teachers to immediately dismiss his claim? The mum shouldn’t have approached your child but that’s nothing to do with her being a teacher.

The second one is a reverse of the first almost isn’t it? But with less drama.

LittleMG · 27/06/2025 16:03

Pancakeflipper · 27/06/2025 12:30

You could flip this round and look at the other common dominator being your son. Does he struggle with how to deal friendships ?

Came here to say this, OP has completely glossed over the fact that both times her son was accused of bullying. Is he always like this or have these other children been unlucky??

JapaneseMaggie · 27/06/2025 16:50

LittleMG · 27/06/2025 16:03

Came here to say this, OP has completely glossed over the fact that both times her son was accused of bullying. Is he always like this or have these other children been unlucky??

Second time he wasn’t accused of bullying, the other boy was being horrible to DS because he didn’t want to keep inviting him round after school and at weekends.

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