Fake friends

[TheOpalFox]

How draining is it when your the only one checking on people? Yet they don’t check on you ?

This comes up over and over again on here. Ask yourself why you're 'checking on' people -- do you mean sending a WhatsApp message? What do you say in the messages? Are you suggesting a meeting? How frequently do you send them?

I mean, I'm not sure I've ever sent a 'checking in' message to any friend, nor are they sent to me. Contact is generally to suggest a time to talk on the phone, suggest a meeting, or communicate some news.

Depends on circumstances. If they are having a tough time, I would not expect them to check on me in return or even necessarily reply.

If however, it's someone just not bothering to get in touch, I wouldn't bother with them anymore.

Yes, exactly. For me, 'checking in' messages are only for if someone is having a hard time, or is ill or has something else difficult going on -- I sent a couple recently to a friend who was grieving after she'd had to have her elderly dog put to sleep. I make it plain they don't need to be responded to. They're just to let someone going through something know I'm thinking of them. But I don't 'check in' with friends in general.

I dont see how they are fake going on that just busy and getting on with their own lives? Does it really need a label?

Hi OP there was a time I thought like you but now I don't message or make an effort with people who don't make ab effort with me BUT ALSO I don't think everyone appreciates messages that just say "hi how are you?" if you don't have anything else to say