Hi ladies,
I've been spilt with my ex for 3 years now, the spilt was bad, however things calmed down a year or so later we share a DD who is 8.
My ex got into a relationship straight away, I found out a few months later that he cheated - that relationship last a few months and again he got into another relationship (still with her) lives with her and her 5 DC in west London, I'm in Essex where I've always lived. I recently got into a relationship (4 months) my DD hasn't met him I have no intention of doing so until the time is right. He has no children, but is very understanding of my situation. My DD doesn't have overnights with dad due to their being no room in the home, it's a 2 bed flat 3 boys 2 girls and my ex and his gf sleep in the living room. However he spends every Saturday and every other Sunday with her 10-6 we have a informal arrangement.
That's the backstory.
I need help with what's been happening recently.
My ex says he doesn't care that I'm now in a relationship. Ever since we spilt we communicated via email, phone calls were and are rare, my daughter has a old mobile phone that we use so she can facetime him/speak to him.
We lost the phone on Sunday - I sent an email to him on Monday night telling him that we have lost the phone and I'll buy a replacement when I get paid on Wednesday, he never replied back but that's not unusual.
He has asked me if (let's call him bf for now) has been around his daughter - I've told him no, I usually go to his and I have no intention of introducing.
Wednesday night at 9.30 my buzzer goes, we were both in bed. I answered the door and it was him, demanding to be let in. Some idiot had left the entrance door on the latch and within 2 mins (I'm on 2nd floor) he was banging on my front door telling me "open the fucking door" which I did (out of sheer panic I suppose) he then put on all the lights, and demanded to know where my daughter was (she was in bed sleeping) demanded to know why he hasn't heard from us, I told him I'd emailed him and I hadn't had the chance to buy a new phone.
He then told me his mum was also worried and had emailed me (no emails from mum) and not to "fuck with him" and he wouldn't give a fuck who was in my house and threatened to "flip out"
I told him to leave my home immediately which he did, he had been drinking he had a drink on him.
He has now refused to pay for our DD until he is able to have her overnight, which isn't possible - his mum lives in Worthing and is in a 1 bed flat.
My friend said I should report him, I haven't told my bf (let's just call him that)
AIBU with stopping contact and getting legal advice now?
Everything was going so well, well as good as they could be.