Menspreaders!

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Aargh just a rant more than anything! Just came back from a solo holiday, 4.5 hour flight. Sat next to a couple, man in the middle. As soon as we took off he went to sleep... One leg crossed over the other (like ankle over knee, so the knee was stuck right out, draped over my stomach). Then did a big dramatic yawn (clearly wasn't actually asleep) and locked his hands behind his head so his fucking elbow was in my ear. And kept stretching which whacked me on the back of the head. . I tried to gently rouse him or move him away from my fucking seat when it became obvious he was actually awake and relishing it. Wtf.

The worst is that when I started to physically push him off me, his partner started ranting at me about 'he didn't do it deliberately', 'he was asleep, no need to get physical, leave him alone!' (I was in no way violent btw, just pushed the limbs in my seat space back into his own). This cycle repeated throughout the entire flight - I asked to be moved but there were no spaces.

No real point to this post apart from me being extremely tired! I guess:

YABU I would.have no issues with the poor tired man spreading out if it makes him comfortable!

YANBU - just stay in the seat you've paid for dickhead.

Why didn't you ask her to change places with him?

I've just returned from Portugal. I had an aisle seat. There was a man in the middle seat. He kept his knees close together for the whole flight. He also kept his arms in, not even touching the armrests. Totally surprised me how considerate he was.
So unusual in my experience.
Almost too much as, to me, middle seat is entitled armrests

You should have spoken to a flight attendant. But the guy sounds like a total prick and I hate spreaders -as I have been sat next to them of either sex. I am only short 160cm and the amount of people who think that means I shouldn’t use my leg room on flights is madness.

Did you have the armrest down?

He sounds horrendous. My own DH, despite being big, is pretty neat and tidy in these situations thankfully.

When he's a passenger in my car though, he sits with his legs splayed out, so every time I need to change gears I have to tell him to move.

What a nightmare and a shame to end your holiday this way. I can’t believe the gf reaction either - he can totally spread out into her! He’s definitely doing it as a wind up with the fake yawning etc too.

I find people and especially men’s inability to stay in their designated seat space atrocious. On the train recently, assigned seats, quite full, the lady next to me kept kicking her feet out into my footwell space. Yesterday on the tube I had to squeeze into a seat between two men whose knees were touching.
Do they sit this way at home? How do they cope in office chairs?

I'm so sick of the manspreaders too. You never see them do it to other men. If there's 3 men sitting in a row on the train, they somehow manage to keep their legs closed. Funny that.

YANBU. Hands behind head, elbows akimbo is not a normal position to adopt on a plane, for starters. If he’d been accidentally hitting you he’d have apologised.

Also women with long hair who continually flick it, hitting the person next to them in the face, apparently entirely unaware, are very irritating. Hairspreaders?