To think acknowledging someone is basic manners

[strawberriesandcream23]

On more than one occasion when dropping my children off at school/preschool they have seen friends/people they know and said hello and been completely ignored by the children and the parents. Now I know some children are shy (myself and my children are incredibly shy) however I taught them to be polite if some is talking to them. On more than one occasion my daughter has gone to say hello to a friend who has not responded but the parents have either pretended my child isn’t standing in front of them ie no eye contact , completely looking through them, or not politely said to the child someone’s saying hello to you don’t want to say hello back , or something along those lines or even said hello to my child . Drives me mad isn’t this just basic manners. I’m not expecting people to force their children to talk when they don’t want to but a small hi or even a smile cost nothing!

Yes, it's rather rude. Fight fire with fire and avoid speaking to these families. Don't give out respect that you don't get given back.

My kid is very confident, says hello to everyone, and so inevitably gets this all the time. Almost 100% of the time from other children outside of his nursery, but most adults will reply to him if he speaks directly to them. Sometimes I wonder if people literally don't teach their kids any manners at all, or coach them in any kind of social interactions. I see a lot of parents are really hands off when we're out and about; sat talking to the other adults, not getting involved when their kids being rude or excluding others, etc. Sometimes I feel like I've set my son up for failure by teaching him manners and social skills. Very few other kids have them. They all just seem to look bewildered and frightened when met with "Hi, my name's Jack, do you want to play?". It's very frustrating, especially when their parents don't help them communicate anything at all. I've just started teaching my son that some children don't have good parents who haven't taught them how to be nice 🤷🏻‍♀️ I've really lost my patience with it.

My 2 godchildren are like this and yes I consider it rude.

they are happy to get presents etc but when I visit or see them out and about they never say hello when I greet them or good bye and I make sure to say it directly to them.

it’s frustrating but if their parents don’t make them I certainly have no influence

Have they definitely seen you on the school run? Ours is very busy & people are rushing about, not paying attention to all the people around them, kids are running around/shouting.

There's certain mums like this on my school run. I see them on almost every pick up and drop off but they blank me every single time. Their husbands/partners and anyone else with them always say hi 😂 so not surprised some kids are like that. My eldest can be a bit funny when he meets someone he knows out of context and unexpectedly but it's because he's awkward rather than rude.

My SIL was always very " you don't have to kiss/hug/talk to/ make eye contact with anyone you don't want to " . It started off well, then we realised she's just a controlling dickhead. Only my nieces and Bro the enabler have suffered...

I’m very socially anxious so I avoid speaking to people unless I have to, as little eye contact as possible helps, however if someone says hello I say hi sheepishly back. For some reason I don’t have the same issue with saying please and thank you to strangers 🤷🏻‍♀️

However when it comes to my children I always say so and so is saying hello please acknowledge 😂 Well I only have to with my eldest, my 3 year old never stops saying hello to everyone and most of them ignore him 🤦🏻‍♀️

I’d like to think it’s just shyness…

I have told my kids over and over again to say hi nicely back when spoken to outside school, they're now 6 and 8 and do always respond but it did take a good long time to get them to do this consistently, especially my DS, I never understood why! I'm very strong on manners, and it's often to friends they really like! He can be very shy at times, and my dd does get into her own world when wandering along. All I mean is it might not be that the parents don't care or try?

My DS struggles with saying hello and bye to people. (ASD). He doesn’t get the social cues. He adores his favourite teacher, but even when he walks in every morning, he doesn’t say hello. He said bye to his football coach one and he said “Charlie, that’s the first time you’ve ever said bye to me!” And they had a joke about it. But he hasn’t done it since 🤣