I am going to try and keep this as short as I can but with much detail as I can but might be quite difficult as there’s a lot to mention. I am really stuck on what to do with this situation and I thought I would see what others say and their opinions.
So me and my husband live in a 3 bedroom cottage, it’s not massive and quite a squeeze as it is but we also have our 2.5 year old, 2 dogs and I am currently 37 weeks pregnant so due any day now!
She is going through a divorce with an awful man who is causing damage to his own property, hiding things and calling the police to say it’s her stealing/ damaging the property etc. Her solicitor has advised she move out asap and cut all ties (not sure how this would be possible as they are trying to sell their house) but this way he can no longer accuse her and get her into trouble.
Here is the issue I have… His mum has a lot of money, the house is up for sale for 1.6 million, she has 3 Airbnb properties and a very well paid job, so my response is can she not rent temporarily, stay in one of her air bnbs or stay with another family member. The craziest part about this, she’s already met another man and has just been on holiday with him since, they have already been round our house for dinner together, this all happened only 3 weeks after she filed for divorce so it’s all happened so quickly. But he also minted, has a huge house, driving around in a Maserati and has about 3 other nice cars, but has 3 older children so has said it is too soon for her to move in. We did tell her she needs time on her own as she’s jumped from relationship to relationship and needs to focus on herself but didn’t listen (this is her third divorce). Also the ex husband she is divorcing caused a lot of problems with the family, she always took his side, it even resulted in me and my husband (her eldest son) to never be able to go round there again due to his manipulation and lies. She has missed out on 2 years of her grandsons life, he has never stayed there because of him and she allowed that to happen. Her middle son also ended up moving out due to the ex husbands ways.
It’s very frustrating when we all told her “we told you so”. But my biggest issue is that we have never ever had any help from his mum whatsoever, nothing. They would always go on family holidays together and not invite my husband (her son) and me, I worked for her for 2 years and she treated me very poorly as an employee even though I am her daughter in law, she’s never helped us financially, she has so much money and we have always struggled so much, even when we asked for help we got told ‘No’, never helped with child care, never believed my husbands side of the story and always took the ex husbands side (it’s only until now that she knows my husband was telling the truth) and I just think why should we help someone that has never ever helped us. I get it’s his Mum, I get she’s family but I just feel like we are being used, she’s got other options, she probably only wants to stay ours to be closer to her new boyfriend as he only lives 15 minutes away from us, he even turned up the other day when she stayed one night unexpectedly and she hadn’t even asked if he could come over, he just sort of walked straight in! I just think it’s a piss take, I don’t need the drama and stress when I’m so heavily pregnant and I certainly do not want her here when baby arrives, we just don’t have the room and I just feel she doesn’t deserve our help.
What would you do in this situation, would you help? Timing is terrible, if I wasn’t pregnant I probably would just say yes, but unfortunately our baby is literally weeks, if not days away from being born!
I could go on and on about so much more but I’m just trying to cover the important parts. If anyone has any questions please ask! I’ll do my best to respond.