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Friend becoming contstantly vulgar

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Frilylily · 24/06/2025 14:56

Ive got a friend whos become single not too long ago so is relying on their friends alot more. Always try to be kind so at the start was always checking making my best effort to make sure they dont feel alone & included in social events.
Recently im not sure whats happened but its constantly vulgar. even the language its in is just extra vulgar.
Its about f***ng, farts, how good the sex was.
Its print screens of their sexy texts from their casual partners, its constant.
Theres hardly any normal conversation and if you try and drag it away from being gross, they just drag it back.
Im now even getting their sexy pictures that theyre sending to their partners.
How can I be polite about this? It feels like im being pushed in a corner and by no means am I a prude.
Im always up for a rude conversation with swearing and bad language but its CONSTANT.
Im getting a little bit fed up of it - am i being unfair considering theyve been through a breakup?

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TwoSidesThenTheTruth · 24/06/2025 15:10

Hello 👋
No you are not being unfair.
A conversation perhaps on can we keep it clean please, somehow explaining that its messing with your mind and not who you are and at the the same time say I am here for you and not one one of those friends who will laugh at all this, I care for you and my door is always ajar for you but sometimes this type of behaviour may bite you in the bum.
Failing that set the boundaries with a stop the language and pictures please. I dont want them.
Failing that do the ignore the pictures and language texts but reply to clean texts.
Good luck.
Im probably much older much much 😆 so id say this behaviour isn't you, are you ok.
She may either think about it or avoid sending to you.

outerspacepotato · 24/06/2025 15:11

You can set boundaries. It's unacceptable of her to be sending you sexting pics, copies of sexts, descriptions of sex or you'll be blocking her. If she continues, block her.

A breakup doesn't excuse her basically sending you pornography.

peidhDassffeks · 24/06/2025 15:15

Sending you the photos and messages is very odd. Interestingly one of my friends was a bit like this in how she spoke after her marriage break up - lots about sex and men being hot and all the people flirting with her. She then got a new boyfriend and it s been more back to normal.
i’d be inclined to just ignore the photos and screenshots and if she asks why you didn’t reply then say you didn’t really know what to say

Catsandcannedbeans · 24/06/2025 15:28

“Mate, I don’t want to hear about your sex life. You’re not Samantha Jones, so pack it in” would suffice.

Ace56 · 24/06/2025 15:35

Sounds like she’s enjoying (or convincing herself that she’s enjoying) her newfound single life and casual hookups.

As above, I’d make a jokey comment like ‘bloody hell I don’t need to see your naked pics thanks Claire 🫣’ and then if she continues, just straight up ignore her any time she sends you anything like that. If it’s in person, just tell her directly that you’re not interested in the details of her sex life.

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