Gym membership gift for child?

[Dumfoundedmorethanonce]

AIBU?

Ex PIL have bought my 7 year old a gym membership for his birthday. I imagine, because ex wants one too so he will also have been gifted one.

DC has free use of a pool already.

AIBU to think this is a bit selfish of ex, he’s used DC gift to get what he wants?

Bit of s strange present for a 7 year old? Maybe suggest to PILs that he won't get any use from it as he has free use of the pool and would need to be supervised at the Gym. I'd also ask if their was any specific classes or interests that DS would enjoy through this membership because looking at the website you can't fathom what would appeal to a 7 year old?

Probably one of the many reasons it’s good he’s an ex? At least it will be easy for you and your family to give the more memorable presents.

Does your kid like the gift? Why do you blame your ex and not PIL if not?

What is there at the gym for your ds to do?

I'm guessing it's somewhere like a David Lloyd club with access to swimming, kids activities, etc rather than they expect him to actually be lifting weights in a gym?? If it's something they both enjoy doing I don't really see what's wrong with it, it's no different to buying a family pass to the zoo or wildlife park if they like animals?

If the gym will sell a membership for a 7 year old, there must be things he can do there. He'll have to be supervised by your ex, so potentially this is a good chance for them to spend time doing an activity together.

Yes, is your DS happy with it? That would be my only criteria for being happy or pissed off. Lots of kids in my gym. I think it’ll be a great thing for them to do together - IF your DS is up for it.

DS doesn’t really get it, he’s not the sporty type at all. Just sort of said thanks and put it to one side to play with his new toys.

I’m annoyed with ex as he will have asked for it saying DS will love it but really it’s because it’s something ex wants. I’m annoying with PIL for listening to him.

Also, DSS got one even though it’s not his birthday…

You know your ex best - but is there any possibility he thinks DS needs to be more active and he's trying to encourage that? Because if you enjoy going to the gym and working out, that's going to be harder if you have to supervise a 7 year old, not easier.

Sounds like a good way for the 3 of them to do something together then surely

Who is supposed to be taking the seven year old to the gym?

Are 7 year olds allowed in a gym? Not one I would be in a hurry to go to, that's for sure!

@ToKittyornottoKitty
Is it not a bit unfair that DSS gets a present on DC birthday but not visa versa.

Ex has said it’s just to use the pool, so he will take them. Not sure why when they already have use of a free pool…

Well that’s up to him as the other parent isn’t it.

It's fine if it's something they can do together but it's a bit tight giving it to a 7 year old as a birthday gift. It's something you should do anyway.

This! Before you jump in being negative about it, wait until you actually have the evidence to back your views up. Going to the gym together might be a really healthy (in every possible meaning) way to bond as parent and child.

I remember when my parents bought me a tent for my birthday, I was very underwhelmed and confused. Then, my sister and I started sleeping over in it, inviting our mates and using it to play in all day. Best present ever! Give it chance before you pour cold water over it.

This is ridiculous. Your DS won’t be able to use the gym equipment and if he has free use of the pool anyway, what’s the point!

I think you're being a little bit petty here.

Omg just admit its David lloyd!!!!!

which is a club and a lifestyle gift.
Your child isnt going to be doing RDLs and split squats...

At 7 he is too old for zoo membership etc

Honestly I'd love this as a gift and it is a better use of cash than buying more plastic.

A gym? Or a leisure club with kids clubs, activities etc? If the latter it sounds like a good gift which gives options for activities for the kids and their Dad..?