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It’s just theft isn’t it?

111 replies

HiRen · 23/06/2025 17:34

Am back in the UK for my annual summer break. Just back from the supermarket. Stood behind a pretty old (going to guess at least 80yo) woman who was weighing fennel in the veggies aisle, to get a barcoded sticker that she could self-scan. She did one sticker, then a second, then a third. I moved over to the right a step, intending to lean over to offer help (I’m crap with tech, reasonable assumption she might be too). Immediately clocked she was holding the fennel up a bit, ie semi-lifting it off the scales. Then I watched her select “potatoes” on her fourth attempt. Saw her do it again on her fifth attempt - she’d lifted the fennel higher.

Basically, she was deciding what she wanted to pay for the fennel. She left four stickers behind, all decreasing in price, all for potatoes.

I’m normally all for being empathetic towards people on a budget, especially a fixed budget like an pension, and I know about the col crisis. But this was fennel, in Waitrose. She was LOADED with gold jewelry and had a small LV crossbody bag. She can afford 98p (the fifth sticker price) for a bulb of fennel. It made me half want to tell someone on my way out to double check her shopping scan.

No AIBU I suppose. I’m just properly cross. This isn’t the 80s anymore. Things cost more than they used to. Fennel shouldn’t be expensive - but it is. That’s how it is for everyone, and for more essential stuff than bloody vegetables. They don’t steal. She was blatantly stealing, and it was the repeated effort, and the sneakiness and slyness in the way she did it that made me so cross.

OP posts:
Livpool · 23/06/2025 18:45

Fangisnotacoward · 23/06/2025 18:27

Why don't we all just pay what we feel like for some fennel? No? Because at some point we were taught stealing is wrong.The costs are passed on to the customers.

I'm not going to get judgey if someone shop lifts some basic food essentials, times are hard for lots of people. But I draw the line at someone being able to pick and choose what they fancy paying some some fennel.

Edited

I agree with this - fennel isn’t a necessity. Not like someone stealing a loaf of bread so their children don’t starve

ExitPursuedByABare · 23/06/2025 18:48

The other week I got a trolley from the trolley park and there was a pack of three tins of tuna in it. I went into the store and handed them to an employee. She looked at me in astonishment.

purser25 · 23/06/2025 18:52

It is stealing and I bet she would have something to say about a youngster steeling. Years ago I worked in a supermarket in the days of deli counters etc. This lady came to my till and for some reason I looked at one of her brown vegetable bag she had stuffed something more expensive inside then there was bacon put in another brown bag with something like carrots in. I just glared at her and ran up all the goods. Wish I had torn her bag so she had vegetables everywhere. Does anyone remember Lady Isabella Barnett a magistrate who known to be hard on any criminals she was prolific shop lifter. Sadly she took her own life and the poor shopkeeper got a tremendous abuse.

xanthomelana · 23/06/2025 18:58

dovetail22uk · 23/06/2025 18:28

I definitely think that supermarkets will put up their prices regardless, yes. And that shoplifting has no effect on prices, other than they might use this as some kind of justification. Like how they say it's inflation but inflation is just corporate greed. Try looking at their profits.

It absolutely has an effect on prices. We wouldn’t bother with stocktakes and shrink if it didn’t matter.

PetiteBlondeDuBoulevardBrune · 23/06/2025 19:03

Why judge her on the way she stole? The weighing scam is not better or worse than ‘forgetting’ to scan or putting an item in your bag, isn’t it?

SuburbanSprawl · 23/06/2025 19:14

I'm with you. It is stealing.

Thing is, no one here is saying it isn't stealing. They're just saying that it's stealing that doesn't matter. Or stealing that's none of your business. Or stealing that the shop is just asking for. Or stealing that anyone might do.

No. It's stealing. It's not the Great Train Robbery. But it is dishonest.

PandoraSocks · 23/06/2025 19:16

Whereabouts in London was this @HiRen ?

yakkity · 23/06/2025 19:18

Lostcat · 23/06/2025 17:48

Ohh mind your own honestly 🙄.

Maybe they can put cashiers back in supermarkets if the companies are bothered by this - but presumably they can’t be arsed to pay for the staff.

This is a forum for discussion. It surprised the OP so she is discussing. Why do you feel you should police what people talk about. Sheesh. You aren’t that important

WowIlikereallyhateyou · 23/06/2025 19:20

If it bothered you that much,why not report her to CS?

KimberleyClark · 23/06/2025 19:20

Tesco have apparently sold more carrots than they’ve ever had in stock,due to people entering more expensive produce as carrots at the self checkout.

Zebedee999 · 23/06/2025 19:34

FutureCatMum · 23/06/2025 17:36

This has nothing to do with you. Move on with your life.

It's everyones issue as society in general is breaking down. It used to be trust based but no more. Can't even leave eggs and an honesty box outside your house without someone stealing the lot.
Even the police aren't interested anymore. Why condone such behaviour?

MagpiePi · 23/06/2025 19:37

Greenartywitch · 23/06/2025 18:39

Really?

You are feeling self-righteous because an 80 year old woman is getting a few pennies off a bloody vegetable?

You must have a lot of time in your hands...

Oooh, what age is it acceptable to start shop lifting? And what’s the minimum value where it doesn’t matter? And which items apart from vegetables, is it ok to steal?

IChooseToBlameYourMum · 23/06/2025 19:43

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 18:08

Why was her age relevant?

Normally when a crime has taken place there is a description of the person.

I worked in Waitrose when I was at college. Most thefts were done by the oldies.

what's wrong with mentioning the age?

so many people shrieking AGISM!! Old people can be dicks too you know.

User37482 · 23/06/2025 19:47

I generally go with stealing is wrong and no-one should do it. No wonder the UK is turning into such a shithole.

viques · 23/06/2025 19:47

Let’s hope the free coffee machine was out of order so she missed out on her coffee!

Lostcat · 23/06/2025 19:49

yakkity · 23/06/2025 19:18

This is a forum for discussion. It surprised the OP so she is discussing. Why do you feel you should police what people talk about. Sheesh. You aren’t that important

I’m joining in the discussion and expressing my opinion . Isn’t that the custom here?

godmum56 · 23/06/2025 19:52

ThatSchoolOfficeLady · 23/06/2025 17:55

Shoplifting isn't a result of new technology. Shoplifting goes waaaay back to the beginning of self service shops.

and even before that.......

ARichWomansWorld · 23/06/2025 19:55

Should be popped in the stocks and have fennel chucked at her.

This is obviously not available anymore as an option and I was joking before anyone kicks off.

But it is stealing and LV bag or not the woman is scum.

Livelovebehappy · 23/06/2025 20:00

FutureCatMum · 23/06/2025 17:36

This has nothing to do with you. Move on with your life.

Do you condone all theft?

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 20:01

IChooseToBlameYourMum · 23/06/2025 19:43

Normally when a crime has taken place there is a description of the person.

I worked in Waitrose when I was at college. Most thefts were done by the oldies.

what's wrong with mentioning the age?

so many people shrieking AGISM!! Old people can be dicks too you know.

Really, you don't say that descriptions are put out in supermarkets? Are we in waitrose or on Mumsnet?

whitewineandsun · 23/06/2025 20:08

dovetail22uk · 23/06/2025 18:28

I definitely think that supermarkets will put up their prices regardless, yes. And that shoplifting has no effect on prices, other than they might use this as some kind of justification. Like how they say it's inflation but inflation is just corporate greed. Try looking at their profits.

This. Funny how inflation might go down, but the prices do not.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 23/06/2025 20:12

Our Sainsbury's (and I presume others) has a camera above the scale to scan what fruit/veg you are weighing. You don't tell it what you're weighing. Which should be great, but it did not recognise baking potatoes!

catin8oot5 · 23/06/2025 20:17

Oooh this reminds me of someone I knew who used to put a leg of lamb through as bananas. Genius.

fruitflavouredmilk · 23/06/2025 20:17

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 17:36

🍿

The popcorn emoji been done to death by now.

yeehawl · 23/06/2025 20:18

I love doing this it’s a great little life hack