Anti-climax birthday

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It’s my birthday today and although this weekend we’ve been out and about - lunch, meal and trip out. I had brunch with my parents this morning. This afternoon I’m just sat at home waiting to pick my DS up from school shortly, then it’ll be home to the usual snack, tea making routine then bedtime. My DH is working, but will be back around 5pm.

I guess I just feel a bit like I should be doing something else, but I also feel silly as I’ve had a nice weekend doing things for me. Plus I’ve had some nice cards & gifts this morning.

Get to the pub rather than picking DS up

How old are you? You’ve had a lovely weekend and have been out for brunch today too. You still have to parent when it’s your birthday. You sound very childish

You have done something nice for your birthday though - this weekend!

Sounds like plenty of birthday attention to me. I spent my birthday taking DD shopping 🤷‍♀️

What about when your dh gets in ordering a take away and having a movie or games night.

I also spent a birthday a few years ago packing to go on holiday and then driving miles to catch the ferry and arriving at our accommodation late and putting the kids to bed before collapsing. My lovely MIL who was on holiday with us made me a cake and we ate it in the car while waiting for the ferry.

Take your child somewhere you like after school? A nice walk, restaurant, cinema (even if it's child-friendly and not purely for you)? Or your favourite restaurant for dinner with your child and husband once he's finished work? Or watch your favourite movie with your favourite treats once your child is in bed?

Birthdays just aren’t the same when you are older!

My parents are dead, and I do miss my mum and dad making a fuss of me. My little boy (age 6) always gives me a big hug but teen dd has to be reminded that she’s an ungrateful lazy so and so before she bothers to so much as wish me a happy birthday. DH tries hard and I appreciate that in his own way he is making an effort.

I just want to feel loved and adored and appreciated and really seen.

It will never happen though.

Birthdays as adults are like this. I can’t even remember what I did on mine.

We have twice moved house in DH's birthday which was less than ideal but we did celebrate before that.

Are you 12😂

I think it’s because it’s the actual day itself now and feels more like an anti climax.

My DS decided to have a meltdown after school (suspected ASD) and so we didn’t go anywhere, I did suggest we go somewhere for ice cream but he wasn’t in the mood. So now we’re at home and he’s got the TV on to self regulate as normal!

I ‘move’ by birthday to the nearest weekend day (so in your case yesterday ) if I can’t do anything special on the actual day, that works well.

This. Birthdays come and birthdays go. 🙄

Sounds like you had your birthday celebrations. Your choice what you did today but staying at home and being able to read a book, go on mumsnet sounds amazing. Happy birthday x

I spent my 50th at a funeral.

What did you want though? It sounds as if all.the boxes were ticked. Pressies, cards, trip out, meal out. What's left?

Your bloke will be home soon. Get a takeaway, do something you enjoy in the house.

Happy birthday OP! Make this your year - do something small to be grateful for every day and you will feel in a more positive frame of mind by your next birthday. It always feels like a let down when life gets in the way, day to day we miss out on appreciating the little things because we’re busy and we expect (hope) that big occasions will feel different. You deserve to feel happy every day, but especially on your birthday. I hope you can have a nice evening even if it is low key - nice food/walk/pampering - whatever you will enjoy x

Sorry OP but (unless there's a drip feed coming) you sound very childish. You've had a nice weekend focused on you, brunch this morning and lovely cards and gifts. Blimey, what more could you possibly wring out of it? I mean, even kids don't get to celebrate their birthdays for 3 or 4 days on the trot. It's Monday - back to work and school. Put a cake with candles on the table at tea time and get everyone to sing happy birthday to you!

The OP has effectively done that! She had meals out and a day trip over the weekend. This is what most adults do.

What were you expecting today that made it feel like a let down/anti-climax?