Little back story, strained relationship between my sis and me. We don't see each other that regular, just big family events. She has not babysat my kids, or ever taken them for days out, ever.
We went to my parents for my mum's birthday. Sister was there with her family too.
I have two children, a son (9) and daughter (10). Sister has two children also, twins aged 10, a boy and a girl.
Family were chatting about going to the cinema. Sister pipes up and says (Infront of my kids) oh, can I borrow your son to go see this movie, the twins don't want to go.
Without waiting for a response she then directly asks my son if he'd like to go to cinema with her. Of course he says yes, because he's a kid and loves days out.
My daughter was sitting there, looking really sad, feeling totally left out (understandably). Sister does have a habit of focusing alot of attention on my son, I find this really weird, sometimes it's like my daughter doesn't exist to her.
I was livid at sister doing this Infront of kids, especially as it clearly hurt my daughter. I lied and said that we had plans to go see movie with friends next weekend, so she would stop asking to take my son.
Not that I would feel comfortable with her taking him, as I've already mentioned, she never has my kids, so why start now.
Would you be annoyed at this? I would never want to make any kids feel left out and thought this was pretty low.
I had big hugs with my daughter when we got home and she said that auntie X didn't want her to go to cinema. Broke my heart.