Wedding

[SassyCrab]

Right so me and my boyfriend are not really getting on, I feel that we have grown apart and pretty much trying to force a relationship because we have a house etc. We’ve got my family wedding this weekend but I feel like I don’t want him to come and show me up, and I’m worried he will let me down last minute because he’s in some sort of mood and just choosing not to go. Would it be rude to let my family member know he can’t make it this last minute, I just rather not have the awkward conversation on the day on why he hasn’t turned up? Can we keep this post more about the wedding than going into the reasoning on that we should not be together etc as I know that. What would be the best way to go about it?

Frig going somewhere with someone who is going to annoy you. Ring your family member and tell them the truth. Your relationship is not going well and you would much rather enjoy the day on your own. Turn make sure you do leave him.

Not rude at all.

I’d keep it light with your family - eg DP can no longer make it for but I’m looking forward to being there to celebrate with you.

Have a stock answer and stick to it on the day and if you’ve got the sort of relative who just won’t quit with the why consider telling them or enlisting an ally to deflect.

can you stay with a relative - group if girl cousins or whatever - to make a thing like we are all getting ready together (as a positive reason for you to go without dp)? Else be prepared for some drama or a romantic gesture from him too.

Tell them ASAP. The b&g might then decide to give an extra place to a friend or family member that didn’t make the first cut. I agree that this is so much better for everyone than him just not turning up on the day.

As an aside I would discuss this with bf before getting him removed from invite list. It would be a bit of a dick move to just spring it on him.