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Visiting MIL

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ArtfulPearlSeal · 22/06/2025 18:32

DP's Mum always makes us feel guilty if we don't go visit her at least once a week. She is in her 70's, but DP and I have 2 DD's under 3, and both work full time, so it feels like getting out to do anything is a struggle at the minute. DP has 3 other siblings, and all make sure to phone at least once a week, but even if we do, MIL gets annoyed and makes us feel guilty because we didn't visit. AIBU to just take one weekend a month to get on top of housework, go shopping etc and not go see MIL with the kids? Other sibling visit when they can, as do grandkids with great-grandkids, so it's not like she doesn't get to see anyone.

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Dominicus · 23/06/2025 07:03

So what if she tries to make you feel guilty? You have every right to do things you want to. What if you want to see your family some weekends?
Hopefully as Dd gets a bit older, she’ll stop screaming and dh can go over with dc.

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