Pregnancy anxiety

[Danni040891]

I am 14 weeks , had my 12 week scan and all fine, but is anyone else feeling a strong level of anxiety between scans . I am trying to be positive , but all I do is worry about everything . Doesn’t help I have suffered with my nerves for years . It took me a lot to write this as I’m so worried about reaching out to anyone about all this .

Please talk to your midwife/GP about it, anxiety in pregnancy is very common and you’re definitely not alone.

I am so sorry. I accidentally voted yes. Please disregard.

I am sorry again. I just realised I actually voted no! Must be my big paws. Please disregard all.

Sweetheart, I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s fairly normal though. I had anxiety during my pregnancies. Meditation helped a bit. X

I think some anxiety is quite normal but it sounds like you are dealing with an excessive level of anxiety. Please talk to your GP and midwife. There's absolutely no shame in suffering from anxiety and your GP and midwife will have many many patients in the same position and won't judge you at all. Talk to your partner and your mum/close friends too - bringing it out in the open will immediately take some of the pressure off you, carrying this feeling by yourself will just make you feel isolated and alone. You need the love and support of those closest to you. Look after yourself lovely 💐

When I was pregnant with my daughter (2nd child, I was 30) I felt really worried I would miscarry for some reason. It's probably because my friend had one about a year previous to this. I never felt that worry with my other 3 pregnancies, even my last one and I was 42

Personally I found it much easier after I could feel my baby kicking, although that wasn't until well after 20 weeks.

Having had a previous miscarriage, my midwife was happy to give me additional appointments and hearing the heartbeat on the Doppler was very reassuring. I was VERY tempted to buy my own, but thought this would have increased my stress, for instance if I couldn't find the heartbeat.

Is there anything specific you’re anxious about?

And, yes, I’m a bit further along than you and am private so get quite a few scans, but I’m currently 3 weeks without a scan and have had flashes of “wtf is going on?” especially, as a PP said, you won’t be able to feel anything yet

In the early weeks, my therapist gave me some great advice: you are currently pregnant. Today, you are. So rejoice in that.

I definitely had quite a bit of anxiety in my 1st pregnancy and a bit less in my 2nd. Not generally an anxious person but it’s hard not to feel that way with all the hormones and life changes etc.

Just try to relax, remember that “complications” are very, very rare (the fact the doctors and midwives talk about them so much is just so that they can be prepared for any eventuality). In all likelihood everything will be fine. In a few years, your anxiety will be a distant memory replaced largely by all the memories you’ve made as a mum

Thanks all. I think it’s all the different stages because I don’t know what to expect and I don’t know what is normal and what isn’t . It’s mad as well as I can’t feel much yet and feel that something is wrong all the time :( sounds irrational but it’s how I feel and I can’t shake it

It’s not irrational at all! In fact, I’d say it’s entirely rational.

One day at a time, OP!