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Job interview - can’t cope

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anxious332 · 22/06/2025 14:57

I applied for a promotion at work and have an interview on Wednesday. I went for it because I felt it would be good for my family if I could earn more money. However, I’m now feeling incredibly anxious and wishing desperately I hadn’t gone for it. I am a highly nervous and anxious person (though mask it reasonably well) and don’t feel I could deal with the responsibility that would come with this more senior role. I’m happy in my current position and even though the pay would be about 10K more, I know I would struggle mentally with the extra pressure.

If I pull out of the interview now will this impact on my relationship with senior staff? I’m worried that if I do pull out I’ll annoy everyone for wasting their time. Feeling so low today and just don’t know what to do.

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WinniePrules · 22/06/2025 17:33

I have had a few situations in my life when I felt just like OP but I decided to go ahead just for the sake of experience, and I am glad I did. One of the most extreme situations was when I was invited to interpret in court despite not being qualified ( I was a freelance interpreter without knowledge of legal terms). I literally felt sick and felt very uncomfortable in the court room. But the judge was very understanding and helped me a lot. To my great relief, the hearing was adjorned and I was asked to interpret in a small room for a solicitor and a client, in an informal atmosphere, and I did a good job. If I had declined, I would have missed on interesting experience. After it was over, my boss told me they were insured for an unqualified interpreter, I wish I had known before the job.
I try to abstract from a stressful situation as if I was watching a film. It helps!
My adult son says he fails the interviews when he wants a job very much, and aces the interviews when he is not very much interested.
I was invited to an interview recently, and cancelled it the day before.

DarkForces · 22/06/2025 17:39

anxious332 · 22/06/2025 15:48

Thank you. Do you think the senior people will be annoyed I’ve wasted their time?

DH says I should still go to the interview and ask questions about the role as that might change my mind. I’m not sure I can face it.

Better than going through an interview or accepting the job and then finding it's wrong for you. If it's not for you let them know asap

anxious332 · 22/06/2025 19:16

Thanks everybody for the excellent advice. I think I’ll go along and do what a previous poster suggested, as in with the objective of asking them lots of questions about the role and getting a better understanding if it’s for me. I’m almost 100% certain it isn’t, but there’s no harm in exploring the idea a bit further I suppose.

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