Is this normal?

[BeWittyTurtle]

I have literally no one I can ask and no family role models.

My partner acts like he needs to correct me a lot, specifically the way I think and how I feel.

when we bicker, we’ll talk afterwards to try to resolve things. But what happens is I go to say how I feel/think and he says ‘let me stop you there, let me tell you what I think you’re saying’ then speaks for me.

I get fed up at being shutdown but he says he’s actively listening and it’s healthy.

I have PTSD and he brings it up a lot despite me asking him to treat me like anyone else. But if I say I’ve had a stressful day at work, he won’t treat me like friends or family, he will go on about how I most likely am quicker to stress, how I probably need more time to recover from it etc. it gets me down because it’s like I can’t have a valid thought or feeling, it’s like it has to be wrongly interacting with the world due to ptsd. I have told him countless times how I’m feeling, he effectively tells me I’m wrong, I’m not making sense.

last week something difficult happened and his response was ‘well, it will feel difficult if you look at it the way you are…’ it’s like he’s cast himself in the role of wise leader.

i don’t know if this will make any sense to anyone. It’s really getting me down, so much so that when he’s trying to hug me etc I just want to run away.

How come you have absolutely no one to talk this through with?

How long together?

no kids?

I mean it all sounds pretty ghastly op

He shouldn’t tell you how you feel or should feel, but I don’t think the suggestion of looking at things in alternative lights is an unhelpful thing to discuss.

let me stop you there, let me tell you what I think you’re saying

That's a new one; being mansplained your own feelings.

He's a condescending arse and you need to smack him round the face with a wet fish.

He's treating your feelings as an intellectual puzzle to be solved, rather than hearing and working with you.

I think if he was genuinely trying to help, he'd be receptive to looking at his own behaviour, maybe seeking outside guidance on it, so he can communicate with you in a way that builds both of you up.

Otoh he could well just be being an arsehole because he enjoys it. In which case I wouldn't spend any more time with him.

Op you were given so much advice on your other thread about him, which will be exactly the same as on this one

let me stop you there, let me tell you what I think you’re saying’

I mean, I'd quote this at him and ask whether, objectively, that sounds like someone who is going to actually help someone express and work through their feelings.
Only a moron would say yes.