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To think we’re getting dumber?

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ByMerryTiger · 22/06/2025 13:52

AIBU to think people are getting… thicker? Not just ‘bit slow on a Monday’ thick, but ‘can’t read a basic sentence without spiralling into nonsense’ thick.

You see it constantly on here. Someone writes a clear post: paragraphs, punctuation, even the odd line break. And the replies come from people who’ve either skimmed one word and filled in the rest with fever dreams, or who seem to think reading comprehension is some sort of woke conspiracy.

Post: Neighbour offered me Battenberg after reversing into my fence, do I accept or ask for cash?

Replies:

  • ‘Why are you so anti-cake?’
  • ‘Maybe it was your fault for having a fence.’
  • ‘You should be grateful she reversed slowly.’
  • ‘My mother died in a freak fence collision and I find this offensive.’
  • ‘Fences are a capitalist construct.’

The leap in logic. The total inability to process what’s actually been written. It’s like everyone’s brain has been replaced with a malfunctioning Alexa.

No one seems to follow a thread anymore, let alone a thought. You’ll get replies that directly contradict the post or themselves. Tangents about school shoes, astrology, or ‘back in my day we didn’t have fences’.

It’s not just here either. It’s emails, conversations, work meetings. Words go in, soup comes out. We’re a nation of people who couldn’t pass Year 6 reading SATs but think they should be in charge of policy decisions.

Anyway. Fence is fine. Battenberg was dry. Mind is unravelling.

OP posts:
Swirlythingy2025 · 22/06/2025 20:56

ByMerryTiger · 22/06/2025 18:05

I LOVED that show. They apparently cancelled it because it was too expensive to make. Broke my heart. 😢

i read that too, it does beg the question just what is possible with science.
cannot believe they promoted fargo/ technically a timeline swap but still in any universe/reality its fargo etc omg
jo lupo, that eposide when they are at the bunker and she asks carter if he was alone and about 10 red dots appear on jo.
overall a great series

Gingernaut · 22/06/2025 21:13

Redpeach · 22/06/2025 17:48

Interesting - i was also thinking of narcissists.

Narcissists want to be centre of attention/respected expert/smartest in the room, but at some level they know they aren't and will melt down when shown up as wanting

People who genuinely believe that they are smarter than they actually are can come from all walks of life

MaySea · 22/06/2025 21:45

I don't think we're getting thicker but I do think education is getting poorer. Not knowing the difference between they're, there and their, language comprehension, not understanding what evolution is and how it works, etc. these are all failures of education not intelligence.

Jennps · 22/06/2025 22:11

Perhaps it’s already been said by PP, but its democratisation of thickery.

Thickos now share the same platform as smart people. They’re all on the internet and walk amongst the intellectuals. And they drag everyone down to their level by rage baiting. Like the examples in your OP.

And they are multiplying.

It’s almost like a zombie move where they are charging at the un infected or the alive only to attack them. But with stupidity instead.

JoshLymanSwagger · 22/06/2025 22:18

ByMerryTiger · 22/06/2025 13:52

AIBU to think people are getting… thicker? Not just ‘bit slow on a Monday’ thick, but ‘can’t read a basic sentence without spiralling into nonsense’ thick.

You see it constantly on here. Someone writes a clear post: paragraphs, punctuation, even the odd line break. And the replies come from people who’ve either skimmed one word and filled in the rest with fever dreams, or who seem to think reading comprehension is some sort of woke conspiracy.

Post: Neighbour offered me Battenberg after reversing into my fence, do I accept or ask for cash?

Replies:

  • ‘Why are you so anti-cake?’
  • ‘Maybe it was your fault for having a fence.’
  • ‘You should be grateful she reversed slowly.’
  • ‘My mother died in a freak fence collision and I find this offensive.’
  • ‘Fences are a capitalist construct.’

The leap in logic. The total inability to process what’s actually been written. It’s like everyone’s brain has been replaced with a malfunctioning Alexa.

No one seems to follow a thread anymore, let alone a thought. You’ll get replies that directly contradict the post or themselves. Tangents about school shoes, astrology, or ‘back in my day we didn’t have fences’.

It’s not just here either. It’s emails, conversations, work meetings. Words go in, soup comes out. We’re a nation of people who couldn’t pass Year 6 reading SATs but think they should be in charge of policy decisions.

Anyway. Fence is fine. Battenberg was dry. Mind is unravelling.

TLDR.

YABU for mentioning cake when the shops are shut.

Swirlythingy2025 · 22/06/2025 22:19

MaySea · 22/06/2025 21:45

I don't think we're getting thicker but I do think education is getting poorer. Not knowing the difference between they're, there and their, language comprehension, not understanding what evolution is and how it works, etc. these are all failures of education not intelligence.

but thats because half the time they are more intrested in tiktok or football etc rather than studying in the age of wikipedia and google etc any subject or at least the basics etc but give them pop music, and will young etc and easily led

Mischance · 22/06/2025 22:34

But we have an education system that values rote learning rather than logical thinking.
What you are describing OP is what follows from thst.
Schools have to teach to the tests..

DorothyStorm · 22/06/2025 22:40

I do not agree that people are getting thicker. It is that they are out there, very visibly, unedited and unfiltered. We are spending more time communicating with people, especially complete strangers, in writing.

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 22/06/2025 22:42

The things we can do without the aid of computers now is pretty minimal.
Spell? Add? Multiply? Read a map? Even converse with other humans…

EmeraldRoulette · 22/06/2025 23:48

@ByMerryTiger "And the replies come from people who’ve either skimmed one word and filled in the rest with fever dreams"

this is so brilliant, I want to make it my username!

Mistyglade · 23/06/2025 01:08

Thread 🙌🏼

OntheBorder1 · 23/06/2025 02:46

GettingFestiveNow · 22/06/2025 14:04

To answer your question:

Amazing though it seems, people seem to be getting more intelligent. It's called the Flynn Effect. Every generation is scoring higher on IQ tests.

YABU to equate Mumsnet with an intelligence test, when most people just come here to get into hypothetical arguments with strangers. Also YABU not to provide Battenberg.

I don't agree. I worked with many younger people over the years and I was constantly amazed at the very basic knowledge they were lacking in - and many of these people had uni degrees. Things my generation, and my DH's (he was younger than me) grew up learning they simply didn't know. exDH still comments on this. Also I really think some people don't understand that text abbreviation is not actually the correct way to write. So many don't seem to know what is happening in other parts of the world at any given time, I find it quite scary. Of course this isn't a blanket thing, but I can't help but think that overall OP is right.

However, you are right in one respect - they should be providing Battenburg!

Cakeandcheeseforever · 23/06/2025 02:46

Something to bear in mind is that some people will have kids around in the background while reading posts. If your reading comprehension stays the same whilst being badgered for snacks, asked for Minecraft tips or having a soft toy shoved in your face I take my hat off to you. Or they may have insomnia and be half asleep like me right now.

FishChipsAndVinegarPlease · 23/06/2025 05:20

Why is everyone writing Batternburg? Ironically mis-spelling the joke of the thread.

I studied German and whilst I've forgotten much of it, spelling Battenberg correctly is now my only skill, and I'm going to cling to it. I'm currently looking for a WFH position related to Battenberg.

Battenberg is the original form of the Royal Family's name Mountbatten. Berg is German for mountain. Anyone you meet with Berg in their name is just Something-Mountain.

In a similar vein, anyone with "baum" in their name, like Tannenbaum, is Something-Tree.

MsJinks · 23/06/2025 06:14

There is research that shows that we read differently in digital than in hard copy print. Whilst we closely read hard copy we are tempted to skim read, or even scan, digital- whilst I say ‘tempted’ I’m not sure how much actual control we always have. Anyway, we therefore absorb much less, just reading for the gist, or picking out the important words (to us). Percentages of words read are something like 80% hard copy, 40% skim and 30% scan - these are probably not accurate (my memory!) but give an idea of how much we take in.
I learned of this many years ago, and it stuck with me, but I also wondered whether it would change as we used digital more and more, from a younger and younger age - perhaps not though, or perhaps not yet, or perhaps we will learn to communicate differently over time.
Also my go to when objecting to PowerPoint reading presentations was a suggestion apparently made about the Challenger catastrophe- the problem that caused it was right there mentioned in a PP presentation, but overlooked as it was a PP presentation- hopefully this was more of an exaggeration, but having delivered (not read) PP presentations and being told I never mentioned something then I do think there’s a basis of possibility in this idea.
I recognise I’ve written too much - very bad habit I avoid at work now having learned only first 2 lines are ever read! - but I’m older and find it harder to adjust!

Natsku · 23/06/2025 06:57

Swirlythingy2025 · 22/06/2025 17:50

plus people in general would rather study football or reality tv shows and let "experts in the media" tell them whats what but when someone has read books or watched documentarys people seem to stick to well the media says this etc as if the media is gospal

Or let non-experts in the media tell them. My bloke was watching the news yesterday, but instead of watching the actual news, he was watching a news clip with a youtuber in the corner commentating on the news, telling him how to interpret what the news is saying. I commented on this and he said this is how everyone gets their news these days!

Pricelessadvice · 23/06/2025 06:58

I’m often astounded by people’s lack of comprehension on here.
You’ll see someone reply to a post and they’ve spectacularly missed the point of it.

Natsku · 23/06/2025 07:03

MsJinks · 23/06/2025 06:14

There is research that shows that we read differently in digital than in hard copy print. Whilst we closely read hard copy we are tempted to skim read, or even scan, digital- whilst I say ‘tempted’ I’m not sure how much actual control we always have. Anyway, we therefore absorb much less, just reading for the gist, or picking out the important words (to us). Percentages of words read are something like 80% hard copy, 40% skim and 30% scan - these are probably not accurate (my memory!) but give an idea of how much we take in.
I learned of this many years ago, and it stuck with me, but I also wondered whether it would change as we used digital more and more, from a younger and younger age - perhaps not though, or perhaps not yet, or perhaps we will learn to communicate differently over time.
Also my go to when objecting to PowerPoint reading presentations was a suggestion apparently made about the Challenger catastrophe- the problem that caused it was right there mentioned in a PP presentation, but overlooked as it was a PP presentation- hopefully this was more of an exaggeration, but having delivered (not read) PP presentations and being told I never mentioned something then I do think there’s a basis of possibility in this idea.
I recognise I’ve written too much - very bad habit I avoid at work now having learned only first 2 lines are ever read! - but I’m older and find it harder to adjust!

I know for me at least that my reading comprehension when reading from screens is far far lower. I read faster, skimming, get more easily distracted, and get tired when its a long chunk of text. Have none of these issues when reading print so its definitely related to the screen.

I do also think I am becoming less intelligent, I think that's down to screens affecting my concentration and becoming more reliant on things like autocorrect and calculators.

WhereIsMyJumper · 23/06/2025 07:10

YANBU
The art of debate has been completely lost. It’s often pointless engaging with people.

TorroFerney · 23/06/2025 07:19

Changes100 · 22/06/2025 13:57

Gosh I haven't had Battenburg for absolutely years!

I had it last at a funeral. It was unexpected but very joyful. Liverpudlian catholic funeral so wonder if that’s just a thing.

The13thFairy · 23/06/2025 07:21

SapporoBaby · 22/06/2025 17:53

But that’s not people being thick that’s people who are using SIMILAR but not the same experiences with a man doing medical care to them (generally in an intimate place) and how they were Ok with it. So it’s answering the question through their similar experience.

Thats what conversation is, even online. Discussion would be very boring if people stuck religiously to the question and just said yes or no.

There's nothing 'similar' to a mammogram, though. I myself can manage fine with a male health care provider at the other end of me, but couldn't bear for a man to have his arm around me, so close I could feel his breath and smell his toothpaste. This is a point many other women brought up.

TorroFerney · 23/06/2025 07:28

Bambamhoohoo · 22/06/2025 15:01

Well I guess…. Do you think you’re more thick than say, your mum or dad? That’s the question right? So what do you think?

I know you are not asking me but no I’m far more intelligent than my parents. But they didn’t read, weren’t curious about things. The irony being my dad was always saying if I made a mistake, as children do -are you stoopid? Deliberately misspelling that as that’s how he pronounced it.

is it not also that we are seeing peoples spelling and grammar or lack of more as we use social media. People are having to write things down and that exposes it.

accents as well, people don’t put on accents, my mum had a telephone voice which is similar to the voices you hear in people being interviewed years ago that other posters have alluded to. Now we hear lots of different accents so aren’t as ashamed by ours and don’t try to flatten them out perhaps? If everyone you heard on tv sounded like the queen (the same voice as the woman in the cafe in Brief Encounter) then you’d emulate that.

StandFirm · 23/06/2025 07:43

I think that because there's so much anger everywhere about just about every single topic under the sun, many posters have developed a 'short-fuse' mode. It's not just rage-baiting, it's rage full stop. That plays a massive role.

PomegranateVase · 23/06/2025 07:49

Yes, we indeed are, and I see numerous examples of it daily.

Spelling is one such area. If I see liaise spelled as ‘lease’ at work one more time I swear I’ll implode! I work in education and I received an email on Friday from one of our associates regarding a safeguarding matter relating to a young person and I wish I could say I was joking when I tell you I had to read it 3 times to try and make sense of it. It was littered with spelling mistakes (including the example as above), and I think punctuation. and grammar were completely lost on her. I was supposed to be able to quote from the aforementioned email but it was impossible.

I fully appreciate that people have needs (and don’t know if she has any), but if you are working in the type of role she is, then it is essential that you can communicate with clarity. She is white and English, and this is not the first email of this type of ‘quality’ from her.

BoudiccaRuled · 23/06/2025 07:51

We are the same intelligence but in the olden days we could only read the opinions professionally written in newspapers or books, or carefully chosen letters to the editor.
The internet has shone an unflattering light on the human race.

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