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D12 does not want to see dad

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HateEverything1 · 22/06/2025 12:14

I’m a mum of three children, aged 10, 12 and 13. I left their dad due to physical and emotional abuse he was very controlling and manipulative throughout the marriage. I have a non molestation order in place. He also emotionally abused the children, especially DD.

He hasn’t seen the children in a year and hasn’t made any application to the court for contact in that time.

I don’t have any family here in the UK I’m completely on my own. All of my family live in another European country, just an hour away by plane. My two youngest children regularly ask me why we can’t move there they really want to go and ask me about it nearly every week.

I’m seriously thinking about applying to court for permission to relocate. Where I want to go, there’s better and more affordable housing, safer environment , good schools, and support from my family. We feel incredibly isolated in the UK. I’m currently in temporary accommodation and I can be evicted at any time which would likely mean changing schools again.

Another thing is, my daughter (12) and youngest son (10) don’t want to see their dad especially my daughter, who becomes very anxious when he’s mentioned. My son has said he would only feel comfortable seeing his dad if I’m there or another adult is present, and he’s said he doesn’t want to stay overnight.

I’m scared that if I apply to court, they’ll think I’m trying to cut their dad out, when really I’m trying to listen to my children and do what’s best for them.

Has anyone been through something like this? Do you think I have a good chance of being granted permission to relocate? I just want stability and safety for my children, but I’m so anxious about how the court will see it.

OP posts:
Mischance · 22/06/2025 12:16

Could you afford one session with a solicitor to set you off in the right direction.?Getting off on the right foot is important.

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