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To ask what age you met the love of your life

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Tulisaaa · 22/06/2025 09:57

After some inspiration 🤣 just turned 37 and in no rush for a relationship after my 20 year relationship ended a year ago.

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CheerfulBunny · 22/06/2025 14:24

Thepeopleversuswork · 22/06/2025 10:46

I don't really believe in the concept of "love of my life" and "the one" etc. The idea of there only being one person in the whole world who is right for you is daft.

Finding the right person for you depends in large part on when you are both ready to commit and do your best to make something work. No relationship will ever meet all your needs and while compatibility is important I think there are multiple potential partners for any one person. It's how you both conduct yourselves as the relationship progresses that ultimately decides its success, no particular magic.

I met my now DP when I was 44, three years after my 12 year marriage broke down. We got together when I was 46, moved in five years later. I don't believe he is "the one": he's just a good partner with whom I have a good relationship. But in large part I think this was because, having had a bad marriage, I had a much clearer idea of what I wanted and didn't want in a partner.

This is why in general I think young marriage is a bad idea, although I know a lot of people disagree. I just don't think a person in their late teens or early 20s is emotionally mature enough to know what they need to sustain them for the rest of their life. I think you need to have tested the waters a bit before you get there.

Totally agree. I don't believe in love of my life or soul mates. I think relationships can be hard work at times and idealising them can be dangerous. My parents were very happily married for nearly 40 years (until my mum died) so I'm not dissing marriage but I'm certain they had their ups and downs.

Original poster
Tulisaaa · 22/06/2025 14:25

Why do I genuinely feel like my life is over?

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ArcticBells · 22/06/2025 14:26

I’m still waiting at 63 Confused

CC222 · 22/06/2025 19:57

I’m 40 and single. Never had a problem finding relationships, but now I’m holding out for something special. I have hope I’ll find the one but I’m ok with waiting…
There is also the one that got away, but I ended it back then. It wasn’t the right time and now he’s married but we spoke once and agreed that there has never been anyone else that compares to each other. I’d never entertain getting involved while he’s married though, so I’m holding out for another true love…
You’re still so young, don’t miss out on enjoying these years just because you’re single. Life can still be enjoyed in so many ways without having a partner. Find your happiness, and when you find love again, that will add to your happiness..

SquigglePigs · 22/06/2025 20:20

I was 18 when I met him at university but we didn't start dating until we finished uni at 22. Still with him 20 years later!

TheAmusedQuail · 22/06/2025 20:24

I was 41. It was amazing. I had the perimenopause hormone surge and was absolutely rampant. He had had a long drought, in between relationships and was gagging for sex. The erotic fireworks were incredible.

He also turned out to be a weak bloke that I ended up dumping. BUT he was definitely the love of my life. Just not ALL of my life. LOL

FancyCatSlave · 22/06/2025 20:27

I don’t believe in “love of your life”. Relationships come and go, some last a very long time but some don’t. For example I know plenty of people that lost one partner through death that found another. They didn’t love one of them more than the other, just different people and different times.

I’m getting divorced at the moment as we just stopped liking each other very much, he’s my DD’s dad and I will always love him. But I might love someone else one day too and I definitely had a love before that. None of them were for life though.

Seawolves · 22/06/2025 20:29

54 and I thought I'd grow old with him.

alcoholnightmare · 22/06/2025 20:29

I think I was about 25/26. We only lasted two years and I’ve been married with children since. He was unquestionably the love of my life. I’ll never know love like that again.

Lornalena · 22/06/2025 20:44

I was 27 when we met, married at 33. Been together 18 years.

Bbq1 · 22/06/2025 20:52

I was 23, dh 27. We were engaged 6 months later, married 18 months after that. We've now been happily married for 26 years and experienced so many good and bad times but we always got through everything as a team.

Brenda34 · 22/06/2025 20:53

58

TwistofFate · 22/06/2025 20:59
  1. We've been together 17 years, married for ten.
AnnaQuayInTheUk · 22/06/2025 22:07

I was 26 when I met DH. We married one year later.
That was 32 years ago. Still love him to bits

XiCi · 22/06/2025 22:09

22

Bigearringsbigsmile · 22/06/2025 22:10

I'd just turned 20
Got married at 25
Been together 33 years( eeek!)

Darkling1 · 22/06/2025 22:10

I was 22.

SectionSection · 22/06/2025 22:10

Been together 17 years.

boredscottishpirate · 22/06/2025 22:11

I was 37! Had known him since I was 18. It fits 🤷‍♀️
by the way we’ve been married 3 years now.

Normansglasseye · 22/06/2025 22:13

I was 12 and DH was 13. We are now 52 and 53.

Gowlett · 22/06/2025 22:14

My true love dumped me, aged 24.
I met DH at age 36, married at 40.

I had lots of boyfriends, flings, fun…
Friends couldn’t understand why I was “single”

But the heartbreak was very real.
I would have married that guy, for sure.

TeenLifeMum · 22/06/2025 22:21

Met dh at 17 but thought he was an arrogant dick. Met him again at 19 and he insulted me… but live kept putting us in situations where we were together and I got to know him and how he was incredibly shy and socially awkward. By 19.5 I was in love with him and we dated for 3 years before getting married. I don’t believe in soulmates but we are very compatible and a lot of that is our love and respect for each other. Married 20 years and still happy. I see people around me having affairs and then I look at the men I know outside my marriage and I’m pretty sure that without dh I’d be single forever. I don’t think I could tolerate some of the stuff my friends put up with (and posters on here).

BenKingsleyClownUnion · 22/06/2025 22:28

I'm 65 and still hopeful of meeting him one day. Have been married but not to someone who felt the perfect fit for me, or who really understood or supported me. It's much harder to meet someone at my age than yours, OP, so you still have the advantage of youth. Please don't despair that your life is over - you have so much ahead of you, and much a greater chance of finding true love that I have. Flowers

Idontjetwashthefucker · 22/06/2025 22:29

51, still waiting

Judiezones · 22/06/2025 22:30

17, but we didn't get together until 5 years later. We've been married a long time, still happy. Grown up children.

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