To want to go home

[Ijustwanttogohome]

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Currently on holiday with DH & DS (2.5 years). After a hectic few months moving out of our house, temporarily living with parents and then finally moving into our new house, we were all so looking forward to this holiday, but I just feel so miserable.

I’m 28 weeks pregnant, I’m hot, uncomfortable, DS won’t stop climbing on me, I’ve burnt my tummy and thighs despite wearing & reapplying SPF 50 and staying out of the sun where possible. DH and I keep arguing as we’re not aligned on our parenting styles, DC is very whingey as he’s a bit bored but I just don’t have the energy to entertain him and DH wants a break sometimes, I feel huge amounts of guilt because DH is doing more than me, and because I can’t give my son the attention he wants and deserves, I just feel like shit, I can’t stop crying, I just want to go home. I struggle with not having time to myself as it is and feel like here I’m getting none at all.

DH thinks I’m being ungrateful and I know I am, but I just can’t help feeling like this. I don’t want to be sad, I want to enjoy my holiday but everything is just making me cry.

It’s your hormones. Your husband should be doing the bulk of entertainment your son. Personally I wouldn’t have gone on holiday somewhere hot at 28 weeks pregnant.

That does sound hard - for everyone.
i remember being pregnant on holiday in the heat and that was without a toddler- how long before you go home?

Holidays with little ones are hard enough but with one kid they need constant entertainment - at 28 weeks even harder. Go easy on yourself.

Is there a baby club? Genuinely if there is stick your son in there even for an hour to chill, it’s so hard with wee ones. Plonk yourself in the baby pool to keep cool and let DS potter about around you. We are on holiday right now with our 3yo and it’s constant. The entertaining and the supervision. At 28 weeks pregnant, in the heat and with a toddler DH is just going to have to put on his big boy pants and pick up the slack. Holidays with children are not relaxing. It’s parenting in the heat just without the cooking. Hope it improves for you.

Holidays with small children are exhausting, being somewhere hot is only going to make it bearable if you can spend most of it in the pool. But being anywhere near a pool means that toddler has to be watched like a hawk! Being pregnant and sunburnt just adds to it, you can't even drink to take the edge off it.
DH is just going to have to step up, you are already doing one job fulltime, that of growing a baby. But he does need a few scheduled breaks, maybe you can do the quiet story time after he's been exhausted by hours in the pool with DH. Hopefully DC will be napping some of the time, so you both get to relax then.
Hot holidays ( indeed any holidays) with small DC are difficult, I'd recommend going when its cooler and bringing an extra pair of hands with you ( granny? )

What kind of holiday is it? Where is it?

it's not too late to rethink what exactly the holiday is made of, the whole point of holidays is that kids do not get bored and it's easy entertainment.

Why is yours bored? (not knowing where and the set up it's hard to give advice)

Hot holidays with little ones are never a relaxing or fun time.

Thanks all for your kind words of solidarity and support, it’s already made me feel a bit better.

We’re at a resort with a pool, DS is fine if in the pool or at the kids club, but they don’t allow children under 4 to be left without an adult and of course he can’t be left unsupervised in/by the pool.

Although it’s hot here it’s only slightly warmer than home, but at least we don’t have work and the nursery run to deal with and have a pool to cool off in and air con so I’m actually able to sleep! So those things I am grateful for.

I think it’s the low energy I’m struggling with most, I want to be able to do things but I just feel so lethargic and drained and then feel guilty and frustrated.

You’re growing a baby. Be kind to yourself 🌺

Can you hire a car with air conditioning for a day and all go for a drive to see some local sights?
DC might enjoy a change of scene and being able to run on a beach or in the countryside.

It’s definitely your hormones!

trying to think a bit practically:-

• massive umbrella and portable fan and rock up in a shady spot by the pool. I often tie up sarongs from the umbrella prongs to make a mini cabana
• give yourself and your DH time to yourselves separately, and if there’s onsite child care together
• dont have any expectations like ‘we should be having fun’ - just try and enjoy the moment you’re in
• keep it simple - can you put a small paddling pool on your balcony so you can stay closer to your air con room? Bring shells back from the beach and do crafting in your room? Draw the perfect Icecream with DS - and then go and make it?

I hope you all find the peace and joy you crave from this break!