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Neighbour's loud phone calls right outside my window

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EmptyTheFrickingBins · 21/06/2025 09:05

Not sure if I'm BU or not to be honest.

A few weeks ago, a new neighbour moved in to the block of flats where I live. It's a small block or just six flats and is usually peaceful.

She's taken to having very loud and long phone conversations in the shared courtyard, and has a chair she can sit on that's directly under my bedroom windows. It starts at 7am some days and goes on for a while - and she literally sounds like she's in the same room as me.

I've asked her not to sit right by my window but she's still doing it. She seems to have English as a second language and I'm genuinely not sure how much she understands.

I don't sleep much or well due to chronic health issues so being woken up at 7am is really starting to upset me!

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Francestein · 21/06/2025 09:06

Bucket of cold water

NoSoapJustUseShowerGel · 21/06/2025 09:12

I’d ask politely “I’m not sure whether you’re aware but when you speak on the phone the noise carries into my room, would you mind sitting at the other end of the garden when you are on phone?”

If this doesn’t work, put a speaker right by the window and play music loudly whenever she’s on the phone, forcing her to move as she won’t be able to hear her own conversation.

EmptyTheFrickingBins · 21/06/2025 09:17

NoSoapJustUseShowerGel · 21/06/2025 09:12

I’d ask politely “I’m not sure whether you’re aware but when you speak on the phone the noise carries into my room, would you mind sitting at the other end of the garden when you are on phone?”

If this doesn’t work, put a speaker right by the window and play music loudly whenever she’s on the phone, forcing her to move as she won’t be able to hear her own conversation.

I've spoken to her once already with no success because I'm not sure if she could actually understand me.

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MewithME · 21/06/2025 09:19

Honestly, hell is other people.

I have chronic illness and you have my sympathy. If you can't have refuge at home, it is very hard.

What a thoughtless person.

Maybe you have to be blunt. Shout out the window when she does it ? I mean if you tell her there and then, she won't be able to continue her chat anyway.

Or you can buy phone signal jammers 😉

McCartneyOnTheHeath · 21/06/2025 09:20

Could you write a note? That way she can translate anything she doesn't understand.

AssassinsEyebrow · 21/06/2025 09:20

Lean out the window and say SSSSH! loudly. Repeat as often as necessary.

CanOfMangoTango · 21/06/2025 09:21

AssassinsEyebrow · 21/06/2025 09:20

Lean out the window and say SSSSH! loudly. Repeat as often as necessary.

This.

Open the window and shout at her.

FloraBotticelli · 21/06/2025 09:21

Seeing as you’ve already asked politely, try shouting out the window, ‘oi, move on’, every time. Some people need more forceful treatment.

AgnesX · 21/06/2025 09:22

Prop yourself on the window ledge and join in....

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 21/06/2025 09:22

Can you pointedly move the chair elsewhere when she's not sitting on it? Or put a planter or something under your window so at least she goes somewhere else?

OrsolaRosso · 21/06/2025 09:24

AgnesX · 21/06/2025 09:22

Prop yourself on the window ledge and join in....

Yes, this! Offer comments and helpful suggestions 😄
Or make a note of what she is talking about, and next time you see her mention it and offer advice.

EmptyTheFrickingBins · 21/06/2025 13:18

Another neighbor leaned out of his window and screamed at her to shut up 😬 she's inside again, will see what happens.

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Brefugee · 21/06/2025 13:21

referees whistle?

lean out of the window and join in the conversation?

Tell her to stop?

EmptyTheFrickingBins · 21/06/2025 13:22

I have asked her to stop but she doesn't seem to speak much English ☹️

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Burntlemon · 21/06/2025 14:50

Follow your neighbours example. Very rude of her and would definitely piss most people off.

AffableApple · 21/06/2025 14:51

Francestein · 21/06/2025 09:06

Bucket of cold water

First post nails it

GabriellaMontez · 21/06/2025 15:11

EmptyTheFrickingBins · 21/06/2025 13:22

I have asked her to stop but she doesn't seem to speak much English ☹️

Use Google translate, via a speaker to deliver a strong message to her that she understands.

MewithME · 21/06/2025 16:18

EmptyTheFrickingBins · 21/06/2025 13:18

Another neighbor leaned out of his window and screamed at her to shut up 😬 she's inside again, will see what happens.

Yes! Excellent. That's what the situation calls for!

LINDAHOAD · 29/06/2025 15:06

yes we had the same problem slept all day and out on the patio all night into the early hours. no music and not loud but just the constant voices when you know it is there and then the all night cooking - again not noisy but you are aware of, it

EmptyTheFrickingBins · 07/07/2025 23:38

It has escalated unfortunately into her having screaming arguments with one of her neighbours including following him around yelling that she was going to "fucking kill him". Police were called to that one, though I don't know the outcome. I think she may be getting asked to leave soon.

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