to think he should phone!

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DP is late again coming home from work. I understand that he is late sometimes because he works bloody hard and that its for us as a family of course...but my eldest is 3, and she knows that when it is dinner time, daddy is coming home (5 o clock) so it is now nearly 6 and i have an upset toddler because her beloved daddy isnt home yet and its nearly time for her bed. Would it really be so hard for him to phone to say, i will be late back, home around such and such a time, so i can at least tell my eldest she will see daddy before bed or not? I phone him sometimes but then get snapped at because he is in a rush! What do you think? unreasonable?

YANBU

can't you text him if phoning is inconvinient for him? That's what I used to do with H when we were still together - then he was more likely to respond.

It might be very hard for him to phone depending what his job is. So maybe you are being unreasonable.

i text too but he is a very bad texter so says he hasnt the time to text back. Which is true, i think he has text me about 3 times in our 4 years together lol.

he is a landscaping foreman, runs his own jobs but has a boss if you see what i mean.

i txt my dp and if he gets the chance he txts back, but you have said yourself he works very hard FOR THE FAMILY, so maybe a teensy bit unreasonable? but i sooooo get where you are coming from. esp with the kids expecting daddy home, mine stand at an upstairs window looking out for him and CONSTANTLY asking when he will be here etc, drives me insane at times.

i could cope with that its the fact shegets upset as in cries for him, and then by the time he does get home we are all miserable and i just feel like telling him to sod off again PMSL. then my eldest gets totally hyper because he is home, and i have a battle getting her into bed. I am sure it will wear off as she gets older, she is just at that age. i phoned hm at 3 today and asked him what time he might be home, he says oh definately 5 but if not i promise i will phone...

oh and just to add i tend to believe him when he 'promises' then get all worried he might have crashed or something on the way home! That sounds mad but he is not a very good driver and is always having bumps or knocks!

think you are being unreasonable. When I am working late it's because I am working and I really don't have the chance to phone.

I understand what's getting to you, but you are being a bit unreasonable. He's working, and if he spends five minutes less calling you he's home five minutes earlier. Things happen, maybe his boss wants a chat, or traffic's heavy and he will not always be home by 5 even with the best will. It's not as if he call you once he's in the car. It sounds like your problem is not with him though, but with with DD's reaction to lateness so divert her with a game/TV/snack at 5 and make it a really nice last hour with mummy rather than the hour wasted waiting for daddy.