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Genuinely upset at this wildflower destruction

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pelargoniums · 21/06/2025 07:20

Live in a loooooong terrace that backs on to another similarly long terrace, with a twitten between the streets. All the gardens have a gate onto the twitten for access, but no one uses it for actual access: at one end, street access is bricked up; at the other, it’s so far from most of the houses and emerges on the road with nightmare parking so even if you clear your garden, you get the lads to go through the house because big work trucks can’t get down that road. Plus every spring it becomes impenetrable with overgrown plants and wildlife.

Most of my neighbours keep a compost bin, leaf mould, narrow tool storage etc out there. A general “live and let live” attitude prevails so if you put a tool store out, you stagger it against your opposite neighbour’s so everyone can have space.

And it’s lovely! Behind ours I have compost and leaf mould, plus wildflowers naturally – I’ve never planted anything but there was six foot tall cow parsley, green alkanet, bluebells, loads of things I can’t identify. DC spend a lot of time there bug hunting, it attracts loads of butterflies – the caterpillarfest in spring was amazing – birds, field mice.

The neighbours opposite have razed the lot. Not only on “their” side but mine. They don’t garden, theirs is fully paved. No reason to do this – they can’t get out through a bricked wall and they’ve left the next space along alone, which is solidly rose/bramble/thicket. A whole mini habitat gone. Now it’s just bare earth for the neighbourhood cats to poo in.

AIBU to be gutted but more importantly, how to respond?! I’d love to do a line of pleached trees in the twitten to block them from my sight but they’d only chop them down I think, and also £££. More wildflowers, obviously. While the land is bare the kids want to paint a mural on the wall saying Save Our Wildflowers & Our Planet (because I suggested it to them 😂) and paint butterflies, ladybirds, bees. Or something permanent/evergreen and purposeful on my side that won’t encroach over their half of the space, but is clearly meant to be there – as they obviously felt the natural aspect of the wildflowers was too much nature – but still pollinator-friendly. Japanese hogweed? 😈

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pelargoniums · 24/06/2025 19:00

@TizerorFizz No, wasn’t that – wrong leaves. There’s some of it on the verge at the end of our road, I’ll try to photograph it tomorrow.

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crackofdoom · 24/06/2025 19:31

With this thread in mind, I was umbellifer spotting on verges around Dartmoor on Sunday. There's a lot of them, and they mostly have very similar white flowers 😬

This image contains hemlock water dropwort on the left (with some bindweed muscling in there), hogweed (NOT GIANT HOGWEED!!) on the right, with something that I think is ground elder behind it.

Genuinely upset at this wildflower destruction
pelargoniums · 24/06/2025 21:02

Might change my username to notgianthogweed!

Lovely pic, @crackofdoom and you’ve inspired me to learn my umbellifers a bit better. So when it comes back next year I can decide whether to be aggravated or not when it’s chopped down Grin

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TizerorFizz · 24/06/2025 21:06

@pelargoniums You need an accurate identification,

Mintsj · 24/06/2025 21:11

They probably just thought they were doing you a favour. I have to say I wouldn’t be thrilled with an overgrown back alley that was meant for access. Just grow whatever you want in your own garden.

if the alley belongs to the council, the neighbours haven’t even damaged anything of yours.

Swoopingswift · 24/06/2025 21:24

@pelargoniums Oh I am so pleased you also call cleavers ‘sticky willy’. 😂
That’s the name we call it too and my kids like sticking it on each other to see who ends up with it last!

crackofdoom · 24/06/2025 22:59

pelargoniums · 24/06/2025 21:02

Might change my username to notgianthogweed!

Lovely pic, @crackofdoom and you’ve inspired me to learn my umbellifers a bit better. So when it comes back next year I can decide whether to be aggravated or not when it’s chopped down Grin

I'm toying with the idea of a name change to umbelliferwormhole

EBearhug · 24/06/2025 23:38

I read that as umbelliferwomble.

crackofdoom · 25/06/2025 14:17

That's even better 😆

Swoopingswift · 26/06/2025 07:28

Definitely try the bee hotel, we have leaf cutter bees in our garden. I love seeing them flying around carrying their little piece of leaf for the nest. I guess some gardeners might not like it because they make a few holes in your plants but I think they are lovely.

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/06/2025 12:01

DustyTangerine · 23/06/2025 08:04

Oh really? Thanks for telling me I had NO idea!

fucking Mumsnet sometimes, I swear to god

No need to be so rude.

I was responding to a post that said something like only or just insects.

Surprisingly large numbers of people have no idea just how vital they are.

DustyTangerine · 27/06/2025 06:39

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/06/2025 12:01

No need to be so rude.

I was responding to a post that said something like only or just insects.

Surprisingly large numbers of people have no idea just how vital they are.

There was no need for you to be so patronising. I was responding to your tone.

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