Hell is a terraced house with a hot tub, bar and outdoor tv.

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Or more accurately, hell is what I'm going through living next door to this abominable set up.

Family from hell moved in not that long ago. Drunken pot smoking father who attended a house party in the mid 90's and apparently never left, a wife who to be fair seems like she's lost the will to live or smile, and an assortment of teenagers who like to invite all their mates round and shout about dildos and cumming in people's eyes.

The garden has slowly morphed into something resembling a butlins, which is fairly impressive as we all only have narrow postage stamp gardens. It started with a hot tub, progressed to an outdoor bar, and has culminated this weekend in some sort of wooden shack thing made of fences with a tin roof, housing an outdoor television.

The second the sun comes out it is thumping tunes ALL day, which to be fair sometimes gets turned down a little at 11 pm. Unfortunately tonight it has now been replaced by some shitty action movie being loudly played in the garden, as the family members converse in their usual dulcet yells. Must have affected their hearing with all that drum and bass.

Yes, we have tried talking to them. The father seemed to indicate through grunts that he had understood my attempt at communication with a primitive life form, however we were then treated to angle grinding in the street regularly for a few nights, as he loudly complained about the 'stuck up bitch next door' and proclaimed that I'd be 'having that'.

No, I currently can't move. I'm working on it but realistically not going to be any time soon. I'd imagine the house would be a hard sell at the moment too, most prospective owners would run a mile.

I guess I just wanted to rant, I'm so tired. I've actually found myself on the brink of tears a few times tonight, mainly from frustration. They went away last week and it was wonderful. The entire estate was practically silent, just the usual buzz of every day life going on made me really appreciate just what loud obnoxious bastards they are.

If she repeats the al fresco sex, could you have an accident with your hose?

*There is only one thing for it, you take up the trombone! Half joking but I really sympathise

What's the alternative?

Yes, what's the answer?

The overwhelming majority of men are nothing like this, and single men massively outnumber single women. So why did she pick this man?

Where does Op make fun of Butlins?
I think you are reading stuff into her words that aren't there.

I assumed it was short hand for "busy and noisy"?

I didn't see her say anything nasty about Butlins or the people who go there?

A relative of mine did this when their neighbours were having yet another noisy party... took them ages to figure out why the electric had gone off any by that point it took the wind out of their sails and they all just went to bed...

Only useful a) if their meter box is out the front; and b) that they have no cameras and you don't get caught!

Answer would be to stop seeing victims of dregs like that as a problem saying "just put headphones in" and "well live in the middle of the woods then" and start fully seeing the behaviour of the AS twints as antisocial and them being problem and telling them that if they want to make noise like that THEY should move to middle of nowhere. It's only relatively recently the, what one could call a, "defence" of antisocial behaviour started. "well it's their garden they can fo what they want." and "You don't know their lives❤️"
It's also organisations who are the problem with their inability to heavily step on people ruining neighbourhoods.

Shift the blame back to where it belongs, if that makes sense, and start heavily fining people or something.

Do you have children? Maybe it's time to start a recorder quintet in your garden. Only of absolute beginners of course. Maybe mix in a jumperoo. You need to metaphorically smoke them out of their garden it's the only viable choice

Feel so sorry for you 😞

Concentrate on leaving. You can’t do anything else.

people say on these situations to keep a log , etc. Really, if you go down that road you will just be a target.

I saw it on a council estate I lived briefly as a kid and as a new solicitor, centuries ago. You can’t win. Just get away. It will only get worse and you’ve already made yourself known as it were

people like this at just selfish shits and really it’s almost impossible to do much about it.

I think that all of your neighbours should go outside at 6.30am with power tools. And when they are still making a noise at midnight, you all need to make more noise. This may not work if there are young children or night shift workers, but you need to do something.

We had noisy neighbours in one house we lived in. Nothing like as bad as your lot though! It was definitely a factor in our wanting to move when we had a chance.

I felt bad for the new people but, like you, the noisy neighbours were renting and moved on quite quickly after the new owners moved in. I'd work on moving if I were you. And be careful about how you handle "neighbour disputes" because these have to be declared on the information form when you move and it could put people off. So weigh up involving the police with that.

Good luck. It's misery when people destroy your peace like this.

This is a really strange and weird response.

Nowhere did I suggest that OP is to blame for situation, and I fully agree with her frustrations. I would be frustrated in the same situation.

Suggesting OP to explore options to block out the noise is not shifting the blame- it is trying to help OP to find the easiest pathway towards peace.

Your suggestion is for them to move to the middle of nowhere. How can that be achieved? How can someone be forced to sell their property and move elsewhere? How will OP be able to force her neighbours to move while not living in fear for her safety or some kind of retaliation? You may live a privileged life in which you are not afraid of other people, but this is not the case for OP.

Please read other people's comments properly in future before writing comments about "shifting blame."

This is terrible advice. This would be green lighting worse and worse behavior, and the neighboour sounds vile

This is part of the problem

I really this kind of selfish behaviour could be stamped on and stopped

I do agree. This does feel like low class scumbag behaviour. I can be very low class potty mouth in the privacy of my home and oscillate between worlds. I live in HA and it can be a 'thing', behaviour like this.

It really is the dregs of society behaviour. Because you know that reasonable debate isn't going to happen. You'll just trigger the pie heads.and all their issues.

Tinfoil BBQ front lawn pie heads that have a significant impact on people. Not ok.

I was a terror partying in my 20s and had a few letters from letting agent about our parties. I absolutely could not see it. Really selfish. I now think poor neighbours. If they'd spoken to us I would have been mortified and felt shame I am sure.

But these men especially will be triggered by any woman saying anything. A huge part of this problem for OP. She's a woman and is requesting something from a pea brain bloke.

Can you rent it op?

I work with a guy like this. Smokes weed constantly, basically lives outdoors six months of the year. His garden has better furniture and gizmos than his house does. He's very loud and very obnoxious. On the plus side I think his neighbours are much the same.

oh my god, I feel your pain. Hell is other people. Someone in our road has had their extension finished, and in hot weather throw their patio doors open all evening watching extremely loud telly and constantly yelling at it. Then the drunken hiccups start (also very loud).

Solidarity OP, we have similar except they own their house. Massive sound bar and can't seem to play a song longer than 20 seconds before changing it. The thumping starts at lunchtime and goes on until the early mornings.
They've had countless visits from police and still doesn't deter them.
Drives us insane!

You can’t argue with twats and their bizarre sense of entitlement; they literally have no sense of community, no understanding of how to live peacefully with others, and zero emotional intelligence - they should be flown out to an island in the middle of fuckville where they can spend their days with their own kind, like the hot-tub trashy family get-together at the end of “Eden Lake”.

Record the noise, log each recording with the date and time, and send to the council, explaining that you have already tried to approach them directly (and describe the response). Don’t try and engage them at all - they won’t ever be able to understand what you mean, and are so dense that they might actually bend time and space if they collectively gather to address you in full sentences.

They think they deserve the right to do what they want to do whenever they want to do it. They should be processed into animal feed. You, however, are lovely. 🌷

If they rent can you need to complain to the letting agent, if your not sure who it is maybe search the address online and you might find the old advert!

@shuggles we have had a few threads on here with really passive aggressive nonsense when someone posts about their neighbour situation. Very much ' yeah just trying to help innit hun, you just need ear plugs and chill out 'posts. Entirely dismissing an OPs experience of her neighbours and impact.
I believe that's what the poster was probably referencing.

@itgetsthehoseagain 😆👏 .....for your fantastic post and brilliant username.

nah Daniel o Donnell it would get me running for the hills. sorry to any fans but nope that would get rid of me double quick