Feeling extremely emotional at the moment so please be gentle! I’m 9 days postpartum baby was born via c section and I’m still quite sore the consultant said he had to cut me two ways so it may take longer to heal, also being my 3rd section! Baby is heathy and lovely.
just a bit of context!
i thought my partner would be abit more supportive but I couldn’t feel less loved or uncared for if I tried !
he’s watched me struggle in pain to the loo until I’m at the loo door then says “ do you want help” yet will help his step dad without asking or being asked !
before I gave birth I asked him several times to help me get bits sorted for when baby arrived - he did one task and made more work for me but would go and help his mum lift heavy stuff and then not understand why I was so frustrated, I asked several times to help me get organised and sort though all the baby clothes etc any time I said I’d not felt baby move enough he would tell me to relax and that I was wasting time going to be monitored, final straw on that one was the day before my dd was born I didn’t feel well at all had a little bleed and pain with lack of movements and he told me I was doing it out of spite because I asked him to collect dd from school because I wouldn’t be home in time! Accused me of lying that I wasn’t being checked !
after birth I don’t feel loved or supported by him at all Infact I feel extremely sad at how he’s made me feel! I don’t feel like I’ve given birth I feel like I’ve just popped to Tesco and brought a baby off the shelf! As sad as that sounds !
I’ve had to take it easy because I’m still on a lot of pain on and off but if I ask him to help me with anything he “ forgets “ a few examples I asked him if he could get me some fresh pj literally a day after I had her - he forgot !
I asked him if he could find her carrier out - he hasn’t I’m assuming he’s forgot !
I asked whilst the weather is nice if he could get the double buggy out to see if it needs cleaning ( I was fortunate enough to be given a second hand one ) he didn’t get it out - he forgot
I also asked him if he could get certain sanitary pads from savers ( they only do them in there ) and some baby wipes also tweezers - he then found my tweezers and said oh great I’ll go tomorrow and get wipes completely forgetting I asked for some pads, where I’ve been sat the last week or so and not able to be up and about as much I’ve actually got sores where you don’t want sores so having the pad I feel comfortable in was important to me ! He’s cuddled me once since I’ve been home, he’s had a go at me because I asked him to take our almost 2 year old with him to dd after school activities because I was so exhausted! I just want to be loved and cared about by him instead of feeling like I’ve just given birth and he thinks the world of me I feel like a complete inconvenience and it’s really really upsetting me !