Dh makes no effort to take a good photo at all, to the point I very rarely ask

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Bit it’s actually making me pissed off
it the lack of effort and laziness of it

My dh is the same. Infuriating

DH is the same. He may lead me to commit murder one day.

He NEVER thinks to get a nice photo of me. We went to a wedding recently and I'd say I looked the best I ever have. I'd quite like a photo to look back on when I'm 70.

If I ask for him to take one photo, he sets the shot up horribly - there'll be something ugly in the background - and then takes a lifetime before he presses the button, by which point my face looks bored and pissed off, never natural. And then I'll realise he took the shot with his camera set to a 0.5 perspective, which distorts my body and makes me look like a completely different person.

I have lots of lovely photos of him...

Same here. I found some long lost videos of my now grown up sons as baby. Years worth of them with DH and every other relative bar me. It’s made me feel
so sad that at no point did anyone think to film me with my children.

My goodness, my husband seems to be married to a lot of other women!

(YANBU, OP. Same thing here, plenty of lovely photos of DH and kids over the years, a mere handful with me and most of those are framed to prioritise a bin lorry or broken fence plus me with 300 chins and my eyes half-closed.)

Yanbu, really pisses me off.

The day of my son’s prom dh took photos of us. In of the ones of me and ds, dhs finger is covering the lens.

Tbh I find it so careless and selfish. My 10 year old takes better photos.

You see obituaries accompanied by photos of a Mum at someone's wedding, often decades ago. Presumably the family have thought Oh shit do we have a photo of Mum to put on the funeral order of service and they haven't got anything since the last family wedding. This will be me, I barely feature in family photos because I'm the one who wants to record things.

I hate getting my photo taken and there is not a lot of photos of me. I’d be annoyed if my DH kept pushing this YABU

Did you lose a parent during your childhood?

I don't really think it's up to you to dictate that "one or two is fine" to be the only thing a child has left of their mum.

Even if you haven’t lost your mum it’s nice to look at photos of them younger. My mum’s 71 now and I like looking at photos from when she was younger. There’s one particular one of me and her on holiday when I was a baby ( not taken by my dad I might add) that’s lovely. Unfortunately it’s the only one. Would love to see more

I hate having my photo taken and hate being asked to take photos of others. I feel all cack handed and shaky, often can't see the image I'm trying to capture through my phone and move my phone too quickly after clicking, I feel like all the attention and expectation is on me. I probably dislike taking them even more than being in the photo which is saying something.

"I take loads of pictures of you, and you never take any of me. It's just not fair."

"Then stop taking pictures of me and it'll all even out."

DH the same - used to act pissed off when asked and they never looked great.

I do have a few nice one with me and babies - which my own parents took.

In end I got fed up and stopped taking as many pictures - as I was looking back and even kids were asking where I was all the time - we went out a lot with IL they'd get in pictures never offered to take one for me. It seemed to annoy everyone else I wasn't taking the pictures I used to.

Now I take the pictures again as they show up on my own phone as remember this day. Kids got a bit older and took a few - but not many with me in but made me feel a bit better.

I'm not great with taking pictures but take a few and there's usually a decent one in there - especially with modern phone camera.

Take more selfies with your dc

My ex was like this and it was so long ago, I never saw the results until the film was developed 🤨

100% deliberate.
He would pull a face, hold out one hand with the camera and practically be walking away at the same time. He just wasn't interested. Never offered to take a photo of anyone either.

That’s actually even worse - that he has the skill to take nice photos but he can’t be arsed or he cocks it up. Grim.

Ive said this to my husband. My funeral photo will be a selfie as nobody ever takes photos of me.

Ive no photos of me and my eldest when a newborn as it didn't occur to dh to take one. Loads of him and newborn though. And we once went out for a evening with dh’s amateur photographer father. I cannot remember how many photos he sent us after that he had taken. 70 at least. My right hand made it into one.

get a selfie stick and get good at using it. I follow some instagram photograph hack account who show how to set up ‘candid selfies.’

I know several people who are shit at taking photos (they just take one, dont wait until you're ready, dont check to see if youve got your eyes open, dont check all of you is in the frame and you dont have a building rising from the top of your head etc..)

I found that the best thing to do is set my phone to video, hand it to them, tell them to point it at me and then I strike a series of natural poses. I then get my phone back from them quickly before they can fuck it up/delete it. This means that I can then take screenshots of any scenes where I'm looking half decent.

Taking control away from them is the only way sadly.

I feel your pain.

I have this problem with my best friend. She and I go out socially a couple of times a months, with and without the kids.
I like to take photos, and I think I'm good at it. I take a moment to compose the shot, move slightly if someone is in the background, wait until everyone is looking at the camera etc. I've often sent my friend lovely photos of her and her children. I know she likes them, because a number of them are framed and displayed around her house.
I can honestly say, she's never once offered to take a photo of me and my children. And when I occasionally ask her to take one, she never takes a moment to get situated and get a good shot. They're either all wonky, someone's looking the wrong way, or she chopped the top of someone's head off.
But I've also noticed the pictures she takes of her kids are no better, so I try not to let it annoy me too much.