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AIBU?

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Original poster

to expect people to ask before leaving their children with me?

12 replies

beansmum · 23/05/2008 17:16

A woman on my street has left her son with me three times this week. Twice I thought she was going to stay with him, the third time he just turned up alone as we were playing in the garden. He is 3. So AIBU? What should I do? Should I just put up with it?

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hertsnessex · 23/05/2008 17:18

YANBU.

Take him home saying I think he got lost and thinks he lives with me - add in laughter as appropriate!

Mercy · 23/05/2008 17:20

Not going by what you have told us. ANd 3 is very young to turn up unaccompanied.

Can you give us a bit more detail?

shinyshoes · 23/05/2008 17:21

YANBU, you did it once now she thinks it can happen all the time.

I'm with Hertsnessex, id take him back and joke that he thinks he lives with me.

Perhaps she thinks you dont mind and the boy wants someone to lay with

chunkychips · 23/05/2008 17:25

It's unreasonable to assume. why is he wandering around on his own at 3? Whether I would say anything to her would depend if he was much bother and whether everyone liked him. If it's inconvenient, just could say you can't do today and take him home. I don't mind who comes to ours as long as they play nicely.

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beansmum · 23/05/2008 17:26

The first time she stopped on her way past as we were playing in the garden and asked if my ds was going to be playing outside for a while. I said yes (although we were just about to go in and have dinner) because I thought she just meant would it be ok to stay and chat while the ds's played. She just said, ok I'll be back in 10 mins, and then came back 30 mins later.

Yesterday she knocked on the door and asked if ds could come out and play with her ds. I came out with him and she just wandered off home and left me in charge.

Then today the boy just turned up alone. his mum had obviously seem us playing in the garden out of her window and sent him over. She did come out to see us about 15mins later, then went home again.

I suppose it's not a big deal, I don't mind watching him if ds is playing outside already, it's just that she doesn't know that I don't mind IYSWIM.

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madmuggle · 23/05/2008 17:45

Bloomin' heck! That's rude!

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beansmum · 23/05/2008 17:51

Maybe she was planning to stay and chat the first couple of times but then discovered that she really can't stand me and had to leave?

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hifi · 23/05/2008 18:05

shes probably from the school of mothering that thinks, oh shes looking after one she might aswell look after another.

nametaken · 23/05/2008 18:28

You need to nip this in the bud I'm afraid. Do what the other posters suggested and take him back with a friendly comment.

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beansmum · 23/05/2008 18:59

My neighbour has had the little boy left with her as well, it's a bit odd. Next time I will take him back and explain that we have to go in for dinner/lunch or something. I don't want her to think I'm rude though!

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bumpybecky · 23/05/2008 19:25

don't want her to think you're rude?!!!

I really wouldn't worry about what she thinks of you.....

NotABanana · 23/05/2008 19:26

YANBU

Poor child, only 3 and just been abandoned with presumably someone he doesn't know very well.

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