Friend dating ex

[MrsRaspberry]

As the title suggests a close friend of mine is dating my ex which I will start by saying totally isn't a problem as I was the one who ended the relationship after him accusing me of aborting his baby when I'd had a miscarriage. Friend knew this too. She messaged on a group chat on WhatsApp two weeks ago saying she was seeing some guy and sent a pic of him and told us the guys name(this wasn't my ex) then days later on the same group chat she says "guys name"says hi I'm like oh who's he and she put a pic up. I was like oh that's my ex Lol she said yeah I know he told me. So they've been seeing one another all of a week. She's saying they're discussing marriage etc like I'm happy for her but it just seems like she WANTS me to be jealous and find it awkward when I don't I have no interest in the guy. Our friend asked who was going to a stripper night and she pipes up with "well I have my own stripper now-oh sorry MrsRaspberry must be awkward for you" like no it isn't at all..she's even said it in the group chat like I know it must be awkward for you but we just click naturally. Like is it just me or is she wanting to try to make things awkward for some attention?

Best on it though most of us have partners myself included I've been in a relationship for over 3 years now so it's not like we're all single and jealous about it lol. Saying that she told my other half she has bigger tits than me and tried to stick em in my fellas face and he told her to piss off 🤣🤣

Oh, heavens, I thought he was a recent ex. This makes it worse.
Can't work out her motives

Just smile and tell her she is welcome to your cast offs....
And ask her if his piles /genital warts /scabies has gone yet?

Ah that makes sense then, she is still really salty about that incident with your partner and has a big dose of the envies. I have second-hand embarrassment on her behalf. I have my own stripper 😂🤮

That's the thing....I don't care who either of them date I said I'm happy for them even cos I am. It's the fact that every time she mentions him in group chat it's always added in sorry I know this must be awkward for you....it really isn't because I don't care so it just feels like she wants it known to the rest of the group that she's with my ex and wants to justify it when she has no need to

Response to group chat "Why would I be jealous of you dating someone with premature ejaculation, smelly breath and anal prolapse (I over did it on the pegging one evening)?".

Whenever she mentions the awkward thing, simply reply with ‘no fucks given’

She's making it awkward! It also sounds like they're both red flags galore with marriage chat after a week and the way he treated you. I'd just grey rock/ignore and maybe just a simple "don't worry, not awkward at all. Hope all works out".

She's not your friend. This will only end in tears. Drop her asap

So they've been seeing one another all of a week. She's saying they're discussing marriage etc

What an idiot

Sorry MRsR if that's awkward
Nooo really isn't, very happy with my decision to end things, and it was so long ago! Good luck!

To be fair he is a bit of a tramp he didn't wash half the time 🤣

Since she's making those comments publicly, I think you need to respond on the group chat, just so that she can't pretend to the others that you're jealous.

So I'd respond to any comments like "well I have my own stripper now-oh sorry MrsRaspberry must be awkward for you" with a relaxed "not at all awkward! I'm glad for you both and hope you'll be as happy as (partner) and I"

I did say not awkward at all but she still does it..with any mention of him it's like oh must be awkward.ive a good mind to address it in the group chat and say something like well no it isn't awkward as I've already stated so why try to make out like I'm bothered when I'm not. Two of the friends (her being one of them) knows that he accused me of aborting his baby and that being part of the reason we split. I'll put it there in the group chat if she keeps it up....she's also added him to the group chat too. It's laughable. It's been all of a week today that they went on their date and shes said in the past few days about marriage/blessing ceremonies and that he's agreed that's what they'd do etc etc and she's introduced him to her child too

It sounds like she is insanely jealous of you and is looking to get a rise that she can dramatise!

I would respond to her next post with: Funny how you think I’d care 😂. That chapter's closed – no hard feelings at all.

If she then persists: “If someone has to keep pointing out how ‘awkward’ something is, maybe they’re the ones feeling awkward. I’m good – hope you are too.”

I would genuinely reconsider this friendship. Not bc she is dating your ex but bc she clearly has issues with you and wants to cause drama.

It's difficult to get the balance in anything you say because you could come across defensive. I dont actually know what to suggest 😆
Adding him to the group.chat is beyond weird! Are any other boyfriends in it?.not that he is even a boyfriend yet of.course. Can as admin kick.him out?!

That's what I mean cos whatever I say she's gonna think she's actually making me bothered about it when I'm not. She's honestly welcome to him. Her track record with relationships in the last two years alone is questionable to be honest. Even my other friend has said there's no need to keep bringing him up,that she probably shouldn't have added him to the group chat and that it'll most likely be that there will be another new man on her scene in a few weeks time.No one else's partners are in there so it is weird

Maybe after the next one, bounce it back to her.

'Friend, I'm sorry you feel so awkward about dating and posting about 'ex', I don't.

Start another group chat for all the same friends except her, and communicate there from now on 🙂

Personally I'd re evaluate who you term a friend. This certainly isn't your friend. She's purposely trying to wind you up like she thinks she's got one over on you. You really need friends like that?

I've told my other mate if she makes one more remark like that in the group I'll be outing her and making her suitably embarrassed

Dating a close friends ex is an absolute no go. To add insult she knew he accused you of aborting your baby when you went through a miscarriage. That’s no friend. Even if you don’t care if she dated him, she must have no respect or care for you knowing what he put you through at the most vulnerable time of your life.

Her text about having her own stripper, oh sorry mrsraspberry is immature, pathetic

If anything I think you’d be unreasonable to continue your friendship with her

Just handle it like an adult, message her and say you couldn’t care if she dated him and you have no feelings for him. You’re just sad that she knew what he put you through during your miscarriage and the comment about him being her stripper was highly immature. I’d make it clear the friendship is over. No need to say all this over the group chat

She’s crackers. I’d not be calling her a friend in future.

Right? Where’d she even get the abusive thing from anyway?