Making It All About Me

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This is so random but I dont feel like I can ask friends/family etc
My husband woke this morning we both were in great form & I asked him was he ok & his response “I’d be better with a blowjob” to which I replied “I’m sure” then we went on talking & again he goes “for you to give me a blowjob” dead serious
I replied “no” well then I got the whole “its all about you isnt it, its always about you” giving me the guilt trip
If I dont want to do it I dont want to simple as! I’m currently time of the month & I have had sex 3 times during that to keep the peace. I’m not enjoying it when I’m doing it just for that reason. He doesnt shower as often as I or anyone else for that matter would & its a big turn off. But now hes in a strop with me because of this telling me I should “think” about it but its always Me & what I want!
we are married 10 years together around 17 & I’m just getting to the point now I’m just a maid to him & our children. I left my job to look after our children & I do part time work for his company which was probably the worst decision I have ever made as I have no independence anymore
i just want to know am i being unreasonable?!

Start looking for a full time job today.

And is this how you want to spend the rest of your life? Sounds grim!

Would you want your DD to be in this situation?

I'm guessing not, so why would you want that for yourself.

Start looking for a full time job today and get yourself some independence.

You also need to have the conversation with him:

Me saying no is okay. You trying to pressure me is not okay. I don't respond to emotional blackmail. I have a right to chose what I do with my body, the same as my DD will have a right to chose what to do with her body. This is about Me and my choices and that's okay. There is nothing wrong with that and you won't persuade me otherwise.

In the words of the Happy Hooked (old American book, Google it) , if it's not as clean as a whistle, it ain't getting blown.

You need to decide if this is the life you want. A lack of hygiene, is a lack of respect for your partner. Even if it's a three year plan, work towards a life gor yourself. A BJ is all about him.

Are you unreasonable to not want to give him a blow job first thing in the morning? No.

Are you unreasonable to stay with a man who behaves like this? Yes.

Get yourself a full time job and ditch him.

You’re with a misogynis who diesng care about you.

He’s heavily projecting.

When this goes to hell in a hand basket he will leave you with little to nothing and you certainly won’t be working for him.

Get a job. And get saving. File for divorce. Leavd

Get a different job.