To think Tattle life isn’t actually that bad?

[Queenofclean101]

Firstly I am not a member, but I do have a read occasionally. I’m sure that there’ll be people here who don’t know what it is, or have never read it, so feel free to ignore. The website is always in the news and there’s a lot of uproar about it.

From what I’ve read and seen on Tattle, it’s no worse/different from the way people speak about celebs and sometimes to each other on mumsnet and other forums. There have been plenty of vicious threads on here about people. Tabloids have always trolled celebs too and they get away with it. Even posting unflattering photos with snidely headlines.

The only difference is tattle is mainly solely about discussing/criticising celebs/influencers.

A lot of influencers tell many lies and exploit their young children in order to sell crap to the public and people on tattle seem to call them out on their lies. Which I don’t think is always a bad thing.

I don’t really get the uproar about this particular website.

Also, would you say most of the things you do if it weren’t anonymous?

I think they make a fair point about registering with identification.

I think it depends on what threads you go on. There are some mild ones, and then there are ones which take ‘gossiping’ too far.

people who go out of their way to stalk influencers children, find out where they live and make their lives a misery do need to be held accountable

I’m definitely not a member and I’m not panicking about anything.

How do you know that someone is ringing schools? Has someone said that on tattle? I highly doubt that schools would give out children’s information over the phone.

My point is that most of the internet is an unregulated cesspit of lies, gossip, trolling.

I’m not sure why this particular site is any worse.

Mumsnet can be absolutely disgusting for the bullying. There are vile threads about celebrities on here too that have been allowed to stand. The only difference is this site is about all sorts of different topics rather than just gossip.

You know when people post photos saying “how old do I look”, how many times do you think it’s someone stealing someone else’s photo to make fun of them? I bet it happens all the time.

I bet if you had to have ID to sign up it would be a very different place.

Have had a lurk occasionally on tattle at the news/true crime threads but the celebrity threads on there are something else! The women/men on there need to get a life as some seem to have made posting about a particular celebrity their hobby. Sad really.

I’m not a Tattle member, but I do read it quite often, and from what I’ve seen, while there are some very blunt comments ablut influencers and celebrities, I think forum members are much nicer and more respectful to each other than they are on Mumsnet. I’ve seen much worse posted about celebrities on other sites than on Tattle, and I’ve always felt that if people make a choice to put themselves in the public eye, then they have to expect that they will get a lot of comments about every aspect of their lives, good and bad.

I only really look at some of tv/media and current affairs type stuff. I think people who use SM as the main income open themselves up to whatever the consequences are, especially people who use their children for financial gain.

I know an influencer who was stalked by some Tattle members who had a nasty obsession with her. They are batshit.

Some of the comments on celebrities and families on Tattle look as if they could be libellous.

I read it about 6 months or so ago when I became aware of it via here and following a few people on tik tok. What I read was utterly horrific. Following people, finding out kids schools and calling social services, finding out employers names and calling them and following cars by posting reg numbers and addresses online. I genuinely do not understand why anyone would do this. That's all before some awful comments about day to day life such as what they eat for breakfast, their clothes, make up and figure etc.

There is no excuse by anyone to be on those forums ever. That said I do know there are pages relating to politics and the news etc. I would sincerely hope those are informative and fit for purpose.

I don't follow Tattle. I have seen a lot on IG from influencers who are now threatening users of Tattle with exposure, reporting to their professional bodies. Lots of "we know who you are and are coming for you" and will expose you all online stories.

THAT makes me uncomfortable. Firstly, it's REALLY legally hard to get evidence of who is who. I'd be terrified if I was an influencer of saying the wrong thing.

Secondly, if you think someone has committed a criminal offence, report them to the police and let the police do their job. Don't commit the same hate fuelled, harassment you are accusing someone else of.

I understand the influencers have probably lived with trolls etc. for ages but if someone was genuinely being stalked then that should have been a police matter a long time ago.

Which influencer was it about because I’ve only heard influencers saying this without it being fact checked.

I’m following the drama like a telenovela to be honest.

There’s a few influencers who have shown their children in school uniforms with the school badges clearly visible, they use their children for views and show these children in their most vulnerable moments which is awful. Many influencers share so much online it’s not difficult to work out where they live or what schools their children attend.

There’s one particular group of influencers who put Regina George to shame with their online bullying of anyone who disagrees with them.

Would you be pleased if a system of registration were introduced so that people couldn't post anonymously?

I’ve not seen any of the behaviour that various IG people are reporting about Tattle … let’s face it, these people do anything for clicks (money), including publishing details of their children’s names, faces, schools, incidents & accidents, health issues, likes and dislikes. They publish their own details about their houses (to try to get freebies), and the ins and outs of thier lives. If you are going to publish your details on the Internet, to try and make money, you can start crying when other people repeat them.

I don’t frequent the showbiz boards there myself, I don’t know who most of the people are. I have though, found Tattle much more supportive than MN around my daughters disability, and the WLI I take.

I’ve also seen much worse language on MN against other women, and also Children. I saw a thread once where a user suggested another user poisoned the child from next door, as she had eaten her sons Chocolate (and no, it wasn’t said in jest)

If this ends up with regulation so that users have to provide their real identities to internet forums then that will fuck Mumsnet.

I saw an instagram post a few years ago on an influencers page. She lives in my street but posted a picture of her house keys saying "finally I can afford to buy my first house in London". We don't live in London and some of the comments outed her address.

I think you get nutters everywhere but it looks like Tattle don't have an option to report offensive or concerning posts where most other places do.

Theres a few “influencers” that live local to me who have had their home addresses shared on there, they’ve had social services called to their places of work with other posters egging them on and all gleefully commenting about it. One girl had a letter delivered by hand to her house because someone shared where she lived.

I'm an occasional Tattle user who isn't remotely worried about being sued as I've never posted anything remotely controversial on there, unless my thoughts on random TV programmes are going to land me in court.

Tattle would be fine if it was actually moderated in line with its own rules. There are some absolutely horrible threads on there. There are many, many other threads that aren't.

If the average influencer actually allowed comments on their own accounts that were critical (not abusive) and engaged with what was being said, I think a lot of Tattle would die a death to be honest; it was the suppression of any sort of adverse comment on Instagram under the #bekind banner that led to discussions elsewhere. It's also to be expected that not everyone will like you and your content; hard to hear or see but true. If that's expressed in a reasonable way it's just life. No content creator in any medium should be above reasonable comment and criticism. Film directors don't accuse movie critics of trolling them for example.

Tattle has problems with some of its threads and users and denying this is the case isn't helpful. Yes, influencers post content that allows people to know where they live and what school their children are at etc, and as I said, if their comments section was open to people asking them if this is sensible, maybe a conversation could be had about it. But it in no way justifies anyone acting on that information in the name of showing them what a mistake they've made, and as for anyone criticising their children or reporting them to the authorities for what they perceive to be seeing online, that's completely out of order and Tattle fails to enforce its own rules.

Do you think that all really happened or just them trying to get more viewers? Why would social services turn up at someone’s place of work? That just doesn’t sound quite right to me. Not that I’ve had any dealings with social services.

I like it as no name changing

Yeah it was genuine, it was a good while ago but I remember some Tattle users reported her while she was pregnant as a safe guarding issue, saying she was blind drunk while pregnant. They were going to brands that this lady works with and slating her to try and end their work contracts together. It was so upsetting as she was heavily pregnant and having to go through all of this, from anonymous strangers.

I used it a few years ago as I found there was some very supportive threads in the advice and off topic sections. I used to like the dating after lockdown thread.

I just saw that some of them are going to be summoned to court.

YANBU. There are lots of lovely threads on there and the only people who don't like it are the influencers who are perfectly legitimately discussed and they don't like not being able to control the narrative.