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To think this nurse was unprofessional?

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ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 17:06

So I went for an appointment at my GP surgery to try and verify the accuracy of two home blood pressure monitors we have in our house. The two monitors give virtually identical readings to each other for everyone in our family - but for my sister one reads 10 - 15 points lower than the other on thr systolic number.

During the appointment, my sister attempted to explain the situation and that she wanted to compare both machines against a manual reading. The nurse immediately told her to "just bin" one of the machines without any attempt to even compare it

The nurse then proceeded to only check one of the machines (the one that reads lower). When the machine displayed a reading of 150/100, she then performed a "manual check" and literally immediately stated "yeah 150/100". Might be just me, but this rapid confirmation seems like the nurse was simply just re-stating the reading she had seen on the machines screen (literally told me her reading was the exact same number) rather than conducting a genuine, independent manual verification. Her pre-judgement of which machine was correct was evident from the beginning, as she refused to consider checking the second machine, despite my clear explanation of the discrepancy of both machines for me, but identical readings for the rest of the family

As a result, I was left in the exact same position I was in before the appointment. I actually suffer from anxiety and came back in tears at how sharp and unhelpful she had been, and because it seemed she had made her mind up there and then she was only checking one machine and that was the correct one (despite them giving the same readings for everyone else), i don't trust what she told me at all

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katseyes7 · 19/06/2025 19:13

I take blood pressure medication and I've been told more than once by staff at my GP surgery to 'just go to the pharmacy and have it done'.
Fair enough, l thought.

But when l tried to book an pharmacy appointment on the NHS website, it states very clearly that 'You cannot get a free blood pressure check if you
a) already have high blood pressure
or
b) have had your blood pressure checked by a healthcare professional in the past 6 months.

When l brought that up at my GP surgery, no one was aware of it.
I actually saved a screenshot of it on my phone for the next time l was told to go to the pharmacy, and produced it next time l was told that.
Since then l've shown it to three healthcare professionals at the surgery, and they all said "Oh.... I didn't know that...."

To be honest it would make life easier if you could have it done at the pharmacy, rather than making an appointment at the surgery.

Mrsttcno1 · 19/06/2025 19:14

ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 19:01

Actually, did not ask for appointment ourselves! Sent a message on the online portal explaining how one machine was giving very high readings, but the other lower to see what their advice was. They triaged it and they gave the appointment. Didn't ask ourselves for the appointment!! So not on purpose at all

Do you not know what a pharmacy is?

SquashedMallow · 19/06/2025 19:16

Sorry to say : but this is a very good example of patients becoming harder work ...

Flashahah · 19/06/2025 19:16

ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 18:59

Again...... just to point out! Was not us who asked for the nurse appointment like alot of comments are implying. Wrote on online portal explaining the issue, with readings from one machine being very high (which is actually important). It was triaged and if it was disgusting or unreasonable behaviour - wouldnt have been given an appointment. The surgery could have quite easily said we had to go to the pharmacy if it was that unreasonable but they didn't. They triaged. They gave the appointment....

They face face the appointment to check the BP, tell you what it wax’s in their machine and confirm to you if it was high or not. That’s their job.

you could’ve then gone home and compared that on your two machines, then decided which was most accurate and only used that one.

You didn’t, you tried to make a nurse make that decision.

Ridiculous

Junepajns · 19/06/2025 19:17

ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 19:11

Again...... because of people like me?????? We weren't on the phone clogging up phone lines asking for an appointment! We filled in a message on the online portal for advice with one machine reading very high and the other low.... didn't ask for an appointment ourselves. Someone from the surgery triaged and gave the appointment! So to say you can't get an appointment because of "people like me is unfair".......

But the machines you own are not nhs machines given to you. You must bought them so if they don't work etc you need to bin them or return as faulty but not expect nhs to check and compare them for you!!

ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 19:17

Fanakerpan · 19/06/2025 19:11

I personally think that was a waste of an appointment, it is not the nurses job to verify the accuracy of your machine, are you aware that blood pressure machines should be sent back to the manufacturer once a year for re calibration to ensure accuracy, this is your responsibility if the machines belongs to you, obviously if the surgery has loaned them out then the responsibility is theirs, so basically is it your machine or the practices? IMO this an outrageous expectation and comment on your behalf. To summarise, as has been commented on go and get a pharmacy check, if high then book GP appt, wasting an already overstretched resource is unconscionable when you had the option of pharmacy etc also the comment re the nurse accusing her of unprofessionalism who acted perfectly reasonably was not at all appropriate.

Unconspicable of me? Would unconspicable not be phoning up the surgery and clogging the lines for people who need same day or urgent appointments???
Using the online portal to explain the issue with one machine giving very high readings and the other low, was hardly unconspicable! Didn't ask for an appointment! It was someone from the surgery who traiged and gave the appointment! If it was so unconspicable they would not have given the appointment

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ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 19:19

SquashedMallow · 19/06/2025 19:16

Sorry to say : but this is a very good example of patients becoming harder work ...

Again...............
Patients becoming harder work? We weren't phoning up clogging phonelines to try and get a same day appointment or anything like that!

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snackatack · 19/06/2025 19:19

If you get stressed your rate can go far higher

If you do some breathing and relax it can go lower

If all of you get similar rates and your sister is that far off she is doing one of the above.

If you only had one monitor - would you test it twice - in quick succession?

Mrsttcno1 · 19/06/2025 19:19

ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 19:17

Unconspicable of me? Would unconspicable not be phoning up the surgery and clogging the lines for people who need same day or urgent appointments???
Using the online portal to explain the issue with one machine giving very high readings and the other low, was hardly unconspicable! Didn't ask for an appointment! It was someone from the surgery who traiged and gave the appointment! If it was so unconspicable they would not have given the appointment

I don’t understand why you bothered the GP at all to be honest, online or otherwise.

They’re not your personal tech support & you had other ways to sort this out.

You also don’t believe what they said anyway, so you really have just wasted time!

Gertieblue · 19/06/2025 19:19

ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 19:06

How are we taking the piss exactly????

Would taking the piss not be phoning the surgery up and clogging the phone lines for people with urgent problems that need to get through on the phone that day?????

We filled in the online portal for advice with one machine reading very high and the other low. Didn't request an appointment ourselves or on purpose or anything like that. Someone from the surgery triaged it and gave an appointment

When they gave you the appointment, I imagine they were expecting that the nurse would take your / your sister's blood pressure and check whether it's ok, to take away all confusion about two monitors. They weren't expecting to check the monitors - that's not the nurse's job.

ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 19:21

Flashahah · 19/06/2025 19:16

They face face the appointment to check the BP, tell you what it wax’s in their machine and confirm to you if it was high or not. That’s their job.

you could’ve then gone home and compared that on your two machines, then decided which was most accurate and only used that one.

You didn’t, you tried to make a nurse make that decision.

Ridiculous

You obviously don't understand whitecoat hypertension then? The nurse could have told me it was 150/100. But to know which machine is correct you'd have to compare both there and then

In a more relaxed environment at home, it wont be the same as the nurse got so you can't compare home readings against 1 reading in the surgery, they have to be taken at the same time to compare

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HCAokay · 19/06/2025 19:22

AmberTurtles · 19/06/2025 18:48

So you took up an appointment for that?! Wow 🤨

@ThisCoolOP I’m really surprised at the grief you’re getting.

Our GP’s frequently book patients in with us and leave a booking note saying to take measurements with home bp monitor and manual reading.

It is a PITA tbh, just because of the level of faff, and it’s even more of a PITA when the patients take it upon themselves to bring theirs monitor AND two weeks of a.m & p.m readings for us to review/compare.

HOWEVER, if it’s good enough for actual Drs to want us to do, I don’t understand nurses, and random joe blogs with no medical qualifications, on here saying you wasted that nurses time.

Viviennemary · 19/06/2025 19:22

It really isn't the job of a nurse to check if your home blood machines are working properly. Buy a new one and stop wasting folks time,

ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 19:22

Gertieblue · 19/06/2025 19:19

When they gave you the appointment, I imagine they were expecting that the nurse would take your / your sister's blood pressure and check whether it's ok, to take away all confusion about two monitors. They weren't expecting to check the monitors - that's not the nurse's job.

Actually not correct, the appointment was triaged and I was told to bring both machines in by the lady who triaged!

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MoominUnderWater · 19/06/2025 19:22

ChristmasFluff · 19/06/2025 19:10

If you are thinking the nurse didn't check properly because she was quick, that's a mistake - it's really easy and quick for even non-nurses to do a manual BP. It would probably take me about 15-30 seconds and I'm not a nurse.

It's literally how long it takes you to inflate the cuff then slowly deflate it. The machines take longer because they take longer to inflate as they have to sense when they've lost the pulse. When you are listening, you just pump to where the pulse stops, then smoothly deflate til it returns and then disappears. It's really quick compared to the machine.

You can look online at tutorials and see how quickly it is done.

That’s actually an incorrect (though commonly used) technique. I’m a clinical educator and teach staff and students how to correctly take a manual BP. Most people including my gp last time he took it manually do it wrong.

DysmalRadius · 19/06/2025 19:24

Are those insisting that calibrating BP machines isn't the nurse's job health care professionals? Because our GP surgery offers the exact service the OP is describing to enable more patients to do home heart care and (AFAIK) get more accurate readings due to the flexibility of taking them yourself.

I could understand it it was a case of saying they were only allowed to do one machine per appt or similar, but if they offered to test a machine why not test two - there are plenty of reasons having two could be necessary (two homes, one upstairs one downstairs for eg) so it seems mad to insist that the same one is always used for the sake of a 2.minute check that the OP had been offered for exactly that purpose.

And to those claiming they cannot imagine a situation where someone needs a relative/carer with them for medical appointments, you are coming across as either quite cruel or quite naive.

ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 19:24

Mrsttcno1 · 19/06/2025 19:14

Do you not know what a pharmacy is?

Yes I do

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Mymanyellow · 19/06/2025 19:25

Did the nurse take yours/your sister’s blood pressure on the machine in the surgery? If so if it was the same or very similar to one of your own that you use indoors then that one is accurate. You can discard the other one. Or have I completely missed something?

Greybeardy · 19/06/2025 19:26

ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 19:21

You obviously don't understand whitecoat hypertension then? The nurse could have told me it was 150/100. But to know which machine is correct you'd have to compare both there and then

In a more relaxed environment at home, it wont be the same as the nurse got so you can't compare home readings against 1 reading in the surgery, they have to be taken at the same time to compare

OP the white coat bit is home vs practice readings, not home vs practice machine. If the machine she checked in clinic correlated with hers then it is fine to use that one. Ditch the other one. The difference between home and clinic readings is taken into account when interpreting the results.

Dodeedoo · 19/06/2025 19:26

Lanzarotelady · 19/06/2025 18:27

@ThisCoolOP you're still not answering the main question, why are you and your sister going to the bloody GP together?

What the hell does that have to do with you?

HairyMaclaryInTheDairy · 19/06/2025 19:27

I hear you, OP. Blood pressure is a strange and imprecise science.

I have to have mine read manually. Several doctors have noted that electronic readings tend to be inaccurate for me. This was first observed in pregnancy (manual readings are supposed to be done in pregnancy - not electronic), but it has been the same since. The difference can be up to thirty points on both systolic and diastolic, the electronic readings being higher. Nobody is quite clear why.

Luckily my practice nurse is more patient than yours. She always does a manual reading for me. I have been told time and again that manual readings are more accurate - there are a lot of variables with the machines. But they are quicker, easier, and ultimately cheaper.

Perhaps something like this is going on with your sister. Or you, whichever it is!

Nearly50omg · 19/06/2025 19:27

ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 17:25

The thing is, for everyone else in our family the machines are giving readings close to each other, for example I checked with both this afternoon and 132/85 on one machine, then 5 minutes later 130/84 on the other. My sister's top number is a much bigger difference 15- 20 points. So i don't think the machines are inaccurate, just for some reason they are on my sister

The machines are both correct! Do you not understand how blood pressure works??? Your bp will be different 5 mins later and the more you take it the more stressed you get and the higher your bp will be

Aligirlbear · 19/06/2025 19:27

If they are reading correctly for everyone else it might just be that your SIL suffers from anxiety around her BP and as soon as her BP has been taken there is an increase which the other machine records. There is something called white coat syndrome and hat this means is that for some people as soon as they find themselves in the GPs or their BP is taken it automatically rises.

ThisCoolOP · 19/06/2025 19:27

Mymanyellow · 19/06/2025 19:25

Did the nurse take yours/your sister’s blood pressure on the machine in the surgery? If so if it was the same or very similar to one of your own that you use indoors then that one is accurate. You can discard the other one. Or have I completely missed something?

Hey, they don't use automatic machines in our surgery. They use manual

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TwinklyRoseTurtle · 19/06/2025 19:28

What a waste of NHS time, you are being VERY unreasonable