Was I rude to builder?

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Basically I have a regular handyman who does odd jobs around the house, he is a lovely man.

I was telling him how I am looking to get a back patio done and he gave me the number of someone he knows who does patios.

I contacted the guy but he is currently away on holiday.

A few days later I get a text from someone asking to come round to give us a quote for the patio.

I kindly asked him where he got my number from and he took massive offence and then said he is fully booked for 6 months.
All I did was ask as he could of been anyone.

My handyman has gave him my number, and was just trying to help.

Was IBU to ask?

I feel bad now as if I have unwittingly caused offence to the man.

Was this a different person from the one you initially contacted? I.e your handyman had given your number to a second person, without you discussing it?

YANBU to ask how he knew to contact you. If that's literally all you asked then it sounds like he doesn't communicate very well so possibly best avoided anyway!

Hi yes handyman had passed my number onto to a 2nd builder without discussing it with me.

I literally only asked how he got my number and he took such offence.
He was like he only had 2 days free to look at the job and now he is fully booked for 6 months.

So the person who contacted you is not the person you had reached out to? Most likely your details were passed onto a third party?

having said that YANBU. You want a service. someone is offering you a service but you're not sure who this person is. It's not weird to want ot know.

If it's any consolation, when doign our loft, I asked a few companies to come and quote. One man called to "confirm" our 14:30 appointment.... it was booked for 13:30. But I let that go and said 14:30 was fine. He turned up at 16:00. I refused to let him in and told him that this was not a good time, I needed to go and collect DS and as he hadn't bothered to let me know he was running late, we should call it quits. he was LIVID with me. I feel nothing.

Sounds very high maintenance! Would not want his energy in my house.

You weren't at all rude, it was a perfectly reasonable question.

All things considered then OP, if you want your patio doing before the winter, Mr. Grumpy builder has done you a favour by taking umbrage at your very reasonable request for information.
Be thankful he's crossed you off his list.
If he's like this about a perfectly reasonable civil question what would he be like if you dared to tell him one of the pavers he'd laid was wobbly!

Yeah very strange, good job I was out the other day with DC and saw a house getting a patio down and asked the builders for their card and they are coming round tomorrow to provide us with a quote.

Very weird of him to ask to come round saying he has 2 days off but now all of a sudden he is fully booked for 6 months, surely the building materials take some time being delivered?