To think that people who change the spelling or pronunciation of their name to make themselves “interesting” are usually thick?

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There seems to be a plethora of names being changed with added or changed letters and nonsensical pronunciations or spellings these days.
Not just children whose parents have inflicted this upon them but grown adults too.
One person I know changes how she spells her name as the mood takes her.
Another insists a childish nickname is used even at her workplace.

I don’t think it’s because people are thick, it’s a shame to always thing the worst of people just because of their name spelling. Who cares, it doesn’t affect you unless you’re frequently having to spell it and even then, plenty of correct spellings are hard to spell. Each to their own

Another insists a childish nickname is used even at her workplace.

Childish to you might just feel like her name to her. I know a Lulu for example. (Like the famous one.) Not ‘thick’, as you so delightfully put it.

The bigger question is why are you so wound up by other people’s names?

Hyacinth Bucket.

YANBU

but by definition they think they are special. Who cares? You know straight away who you are dealing with, not a big deal - aside from trying to remember the weird spelling of the name.

Not thick but attention seeking and annoying.

Well I think judging them as thick is harsh and a bit unnecessary. But I don’t really understand why some people do it.

I once knew a woman who called her son Jake. But spelled it Jaiykee. Just why?!

Isn’t this usually what teenagers do? And then they outgrow it, or adopt the unusual spelling of their name?

I think they do it to be “unique” and quirky but having grown up with a surname that was always misspelled it sounds like a lot of hassle just to make a statement.

You sound nice.

im dealing with a Debi ffs. Grow up

Bit harsh. It's up to them what they call themselves or their kids..no need to insult their intelligence

My adopted child's name had to be changed to something similar to their old known name.

The only option we had was to make their name more unique with a different spelling.

This was for safety reasons.

They suit their name and we are definitely not thick ( Masters degree educated if it matters).

Do not be so judgy!

I think it’s shit to call people thick who you don’t know. Maybe the heat has got to you

Are you suggesting Debi is a weird spelling? That doesn’t seem very hard to remember to me.

I’m Abby. But I could be Abi, Abbie or Abigail. So Debbie to Debi is really not the end of the world

I doubt the man born Gideon Osbourne would ever be considered thick. Depends on circumstances.

I really think registrars should be empowered to refuse ludicrous spellings. Quite apart from anything else, when starting school a daft name is like to ‘brand’ them as belonging to one of ‘those’ parents, IYKWIM.
I heard of a reception teacher whose heart would quietly sink a bit if she saw e.g. a Jayden listed on the new intake.

I’m also wondering what the problem with Debi is.

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She sounds unpleasant!

Thick as an insult astonishes me. There are as many people of low intelligence as with high intelligence. Why are they lesser/not worthy of respect? You wouldn't go round using the term 'Learning Difficulties' as an insult, or at least I hope nobody would.

When you say 'childish nickname', unless it's something really ridiculously unprofessional like 'stinkypants' or 'tootsie roll' I guess she is just telling you the name she's known by and that she's comfortable with it.

Don't people in work get asked if they have a preferred name when they join? Like Franklin likes to be called Frank, Catherine gets called Katie, Mohammed is Mo etc?

Sometimes people have silly nicknames, or may use a middle name, but most are just the preferred short version of the original name.

I have never known someone to change the spelling of their name on a daily basis though. That does suggest some kind of deep existential crisis?!

That’s a real shame that she’s a teacher with the opinion. Every child deserves a teacher to take the time to see who they are and not who they think they are/will be based on their name. She’s meant to be helping shape a child’s self esteem, not judge them

Yeah poor Debi, what’s she done to deserve this judgement 😂

Too much to list her attention seeking, infantile spelling of her name is the least of it. Perhaps that’s what’s really annoying. She’d be a pain in the arse if her name was Mary.

I hate to break it to you OP, but we don’t live in a homogenous society where everyone has identical cultural norms and personal preferences.

As for calling people whose names you don’t like “thick”, the old adage about people in glass houses springs to mind…

You can be thick without having any learning difficulties!

You sound naive. I worked in a school for a couple of years and I thought I’d become more open minded - went in thinking I’ll be less judgmental. Certain names really lived up to the stereotype and I’m afraid Jayden is up there. In dd3’s class he’s the boy making misogynistic comments and calling girls either fat or a cunt. Both parents have spent time in prison. Maybe there are lovely Jaydens out there but that would be less usual. Names come with impressions. Some stronger than others.