More of a how would you approach this/what would you say than AIBU…
My friend and I are both single parents, her ex has little one half the holidays and every other weekend, my ex does not see our child at all. I only have support from family, which I am grateful for as I know some have absolutely none.
I use the support I have to work longer shifts in an employer role when family can have little one, I do nights sometimes too for extra money. Then on the days I have little one I work in a childcare role that they can come to as well, to maximise what I can earn to support us. I’m lucky that this then means we can live and have been sensible with money so we can go on our first ever abroad holiday this year.
Mentioning this holiday is what started all the awkwardness and looks off, my friend kept saying they won’t ever be able to afford that etc. it does make me feel sad for her and her daughter however I can’t help but think if you used your every other weekend to work long shifts, you could start to get on track again too. She has a bank job (bank meaning 0 hours contract type job) a few days a week that she doesn’t always go into, so can go weeks without working. I’ve suggested places that are hiring but she never applies, then continues to moan about being skint, asking to borrow money, expecting me to buy her a coffee if I get myself one etc etc, all things I don’t mind when it’s a few pound here and there at the time but then I look back and it does add up. I’ve stopped doing this now, as I don’t expect it paid back.
We met another friend for a play date last week and they were asking who had holidays booked etc, I said mine and she was making passive agressive comments saying that would be nice etc but it’s the way she said it. Her attitude is starting to affect our friendship. I can’t put too many examples as it would be outing but she’s started to get bitchy towards me whenever money is involved.
how would you go about this? She’s a lovely friend normally it’s just this work issue.
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