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Why tell the receptionist why I'm seeing the doctor

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Eldermileniummam · 19/06/2025 07:23

Why do they ask this? Is it so they can give you an appointment with the appropriate person or some other reason?

I usually don't mind but sometimes I'm embarrassed to say and never sure how specific I need to be.

OP posts:
housethatbuiltme · 19/06/2025 09:35

Eldermileniummam · 19/06/2025 07:23

Why do they ask this? Is it so they can give you an appointment with the appropriate person or some other reason?

I usually don't mind but sometimes I'm embarrassed to say and never sure how specific I need to be.

Its called triage, people aren't seen on a first come first served basis they are seen based on the urgency of their case.

Example: I got an immediate come directly in appointment for unidentifiable chest pains, I got an appointment within 48 hours or so for suspected cancer or infection, got an appointment within a week for mobility or gastric issues, I got appointment weeks away for referrals/reviews/vaccines/midwives etc...

Also who still phones up and talks to the receptionist? E-consults forms have been a thing for years.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 19/06/2025 09:37

MyDeftDuck · 19/06/2025 08:04

It should be to allocate the patient to the correct clinician but all too often it’s a power trip for the receptionist.
You could consider saying ‘women’s troubles’ which covers a vast range of medical conditions .
You could ask them why they need to know too.

My DM, who was an intensely private person, was once utterly mortified by having the receptionist call loudly across the waiting room, ‘Is it about your waterworks, dear?’

Likeaduck · 19/06/2025 09:38

UncharteredWaters · 19/06/2025 07:43

As many have said it’s about the right clinician. It’s also about urgency, I’ve had reception catch:

85 year old man with new chest pain ask for a routine appt. Would likely have died….

22 year old with half a day of hayfever wanting urgent appt. Redirect to try at least one tablet of antihistamine via pharmacy.

Too embarrassed can’t be put in an urgent slot with no reason or everyone would try that.

Bravo to the receptionist who was able to catch a heart attack and helped to get that patient the quick care he needed. .

However, I am very against a receptionist making any decisions to not treat a patient based on a few symptoms over the phone. That is a huge problem that they did this, and that you cite it as a triumph.

Laura931 · 19/06/2025 09:38

NerrSnerr · 19/06/2025 07:43

I am a nurse and can confidently say that most people don’t know what appointment they need, which makes sense because if you don’t use the health service a lot how would you know?

A prime example is you see on here people say they have a UTI/ other infection and they can’t see a GP for 3 weeks and it isn’t an ‘emergency’ so they didn’t ask for a same appointment when they should ask for a same day appointment.

I made this mistake with a UTI and was hospitalised with sepsis after it worked its way up to my renal system.

Itallcomesdowntothis · 19/06/2025 09:39

Eldermileniummam · 19/06/2025 07:23

Why do they ask this? Is it so they can give you an appointment with the appropriate person or some other reason?

I usually don't mind but sometimes I'm embarrassed to say and never sure how specific I need to be.

Why do you think OP?

LittleBitofBread · 19/06/2025 09:39

StupidTrolleyThing · 19/06/2025 07:29

If you'd rather not say, tell them. However, they've heard everything and need to know only to allocate the type of appointment or person to you.

I don't feel uncomfortable telling the receptionist because of what THEY might think of me, but it can be a bit embarrassing saying something like 'I think I've got a UTI' in full earshot of a crowded waiting room.

luckylavender · 19/06/2025 09:40

@Fundayout2025- why they need an appointment. Usually to make it sound more serious.

spicemaiden · 19/06/2025 09:43

housethatbuiltme · 19/06/2025 09:35

Its called triage, people aren't seen on a first come first served basis they are seen based on the urgency of their case.

Example: I got an immediate come directly in appointment for unidentifiable chest pains, I got an appointment within 48 hours or so for suspected cancer or infection, got an appointment within a week for mobility or gastric issues, I got appointment weeks away for referrals/reviews/vaccines/midwives etc...

Also who still phones up and talks to the receptionist? E-consults forms have been a thing for years.

E-consults may be a thing at your GP.

At mine the ONLY way to get an appointment is call up at 8am - EVEN when the GP says to you on your way out the door ‘I need to see you in a weeks time, tell reception you need to make an appointment’ - you get almost laughter at ig you tell our receptionists that. 8am call, on yhd day appointments only.

NO e-consult.

DieSchottin93 · 19/06/2025 09:44

Another GP receptionist here. As others have said it's so you can be seen by the most appropriate person.

At the surgery I work at for example we have a first contact physio so if someone called wanting to see the GP because they have a sore back but there aren't any GP appointments available I can offer them one with the physio, who often has appointments sooner and can do any onward referrals if needed.

Our Advanced Nurse Practitioners can also deal with things like period problems, HRT or asthma and COPD and again, patients are often able to get seen by them sooner than they would with a GP. Or maybe you want to ask about the side effects of your medication: we have bookable phone calls with our pharmacy team the next day.

Our practice does a mix of telephone and in person appointments so sometimes we might offer a phone call with a doctor if you've said it's to discuss your recent blood test results, for example - here's a phone call next week with the doctor, or you can wait another week on top of that if you want to see them in person. You'll often find for things like that patients will be happy to take a telephone appointment.

If you're wanting to make a routine appointment I will ask for a very brief description, something like "gastro problems" , "skin issue" or "follow up" are enough for the doctor to have an idea, you don't need to go into huge detail.

There are certain things that the doctors tell us to watch out for when people are telling us what's wrong for example new chest pains or abdominal pains would warrant a call from the duty doctor. Sometimes we might check with the doctor and they advise us to tell the patient to dial 999.

BumpyWinds · 19/06/2025 09:46

My DH's surgery has a new triage system which seems to be working well.

You call in first thing, explain the problem to the receptionist. They log it and end the call. Someone clinical then triages it and decides whether you need to see the nurse, paramedic or doctor and then calls you back to arrange an appointment, either in person or on the phone depending on whether you need to be physically seen. Because the call to reception is purely to log a request, the phone lines are no longer clogged for hours with people waiting.

Likeaduck · 19/06/2025 09:49

Honestly, I don't think we should get too het up about it.

For better or worse, in less than 2 years AI will be doing all this, no receptionists needed.

NoTouch · 19/06/2025 09:50

They do some light triage and can direct you to a pharmacist, dentist, optician, or the practice nurse. Depending on your issue they may book you in with the Dr experienced in women health, or skin issues, gynae, MH, sexual health etc. They might decide a telephone appointment is the most effective initial route rather than face to face etc.

I have always found working with them and being open gets the best available outcome.

The state of the NHS and appointment availability and waiting times is ridiculous and incredibly frustrating, but that is not the receptionists fault and being coy about why you need seen doesn't help anyone - the receptionist doesn't care or judge, they just need sufficient information to do their job.

SophiaSW1 · 19/06/2025 09:55

It’s triage

Tiredandtiredagain · 19/06/2025 09:55

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 07:34

This has been going on for years. Most of us are intelligent enough to know whether we need to see a doctor, nurse or whoever without being made to disclose our medical information to some unqualified jumped up receptionist. .

What a way to speak about people trying to help you! Do you think they want to question people like you? They’ve been told it’s part of their job role.

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 10:05

Tiredandtiredagain · 19/06/2025 09:55

What a way to speak about people trying to help you! Do you think they want to question people like you? They’ve been told it’s part of their job role.

People like me who nearly died because they refused to let me see a doctor. Do you honestly think that's acceptable? They are trying to help the doctor cut down on workload first and foremost

NHSinterviewupcoming · 19/06/2025 10:07

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 10:05

People like me who nearly died because they refused to let me see a doctor. Do you honestly think that's acceptable? They are trying to help the doctor cut down on workload first and foremost

I’m sorry that happened to you, but the receptionist isn’t the one making the decision.

The call gets triaged, and reviewed, and the appropriate person is picked.

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 10:11

NHSinterviewupcoming · 19/06/2025 10:07

I’m sorry that happened to you, but the receptionist isn’t the one making the decision.

The call gets triaged, and reviewed, and the appropriate person is picked.

She made the decision to tell me to get bloody OTC painkillers. In the under a minute she spoke to me she checked with her a medical practitioner ? Doubt it

MsTamborineMan · 19/06/2025 10:12

Monstersfromtheid · 19/06/2025 08:03

Not necessarily. I got an emergency appointment at my NHS dentist to confirm that I did indeed have a tooth infection that needed immediate treatment. But they couldn't fit me in for the actual treatment for another two weeks minimum. And they didn't prescribe antibiotics either. That's when I found a private dentist who gave me a root canal and antibiotics within days. Luckily, I could afford it. Otherwise I'd have been in my GP surgery begging for drugs.

You had an emergency appointment with a dentist. If the dentist is telling you you need immediate treatment they should be providing that at your emergency appointment, that's what it's for. The dentist is capable of draining an infection, dressing a tooth or providing antibiotics

It's absolutely not stupid for a patient to go to their GP for antibiotics in the case of a tooth infection, if NHS dental services have failed them, and I am grateful for Gps that help their patients in this respect. But most dental pain is not an abscess, and requires actual treatment not antibiotics. It was absolutely the responsibility of the NHS emergency dentist you saw to provide this for you, and not the responsibility of GPs who are not qualified to manage dental problems

Allisnotlost1 · 19/06/2025 10:13

Lemmywise · 19/06/2025 08:10

A GP is not a dentist. It’s not the GP’s fault it’s hard to see a dentist, they don’t pick up the slack for every service, yet they are expected to. Dental services get funded for dental and Gp’s don’t get funded for dental

Edited

It’s not the patient’s fault either, and it’s not unreasonable for a person in pain to think ‘NHS services are one and the same’.

CassandraWebb · 19/06/2025 10:13

NHSinterviewupcoming · 19/06/2025 10:07

I’m sorry that happened to you, but the receptionist isn’t the one making the decision.

The call gets triaged, and reviewed, and the appropriate person is picked.

I have experienced a receptionist try and turn my son away. We were round the corner from the doctor (I had just picked him up from school) when he said his breathing felt awful and he needed to get to the doctor. I told the receptionist,.she told us to go away the doctor had no more appointments. My son refused to leave (he was 7). The receptionist stomped off angrily to tell GP. GP took one look at his details and rushed to see him.

She didn't have the right to gatekeep like that.

Tiredandtiredagain · 19/06/2025 10:14

Mischance · 19/06/2025 08:51

This is so unacceptable. The receptionist is basically making a clinical decision by choosing who to send you to. Receptionists are not medically qualified.

If you ring up because you want to see a doctor then that is who you should see. The doctor then makes the decision as to who might be most appropriate to help you.

Not unacceptable at all, as we’ve seen from the many posts on her.

Allisnotlost1 · 19/06/2025 10:16

feelingbleh · 19/06/2025 07:52

Because a gp will not treat this he needed a dentist. You wouldn't be waiting weeks to see a dentist for an infection you would see an emergency dentist

Yes, and as I said that can take days where I am.

lunaswand · 19/06/2025 10:19

I really don't get why some people get so annoyed by it. I have absolutely no problem telling the receptionist, they will have heard much worse i'm sure

Alondra · 19/06/2025 10:22

I'm reading some of the answers and I'm beyond shocked. From "people are stupid and don't know why they need to see a doctor" to people 'don't know what kind of health services they need or the emergency".

Many of you don't realise but you are in a race to the bottom in healthcare in the UK. I live in Australia and when I call to make an appointment with my GP, the receptionist never asks me why I need to see the doctor. They give me the next following appointment and if I tell them I need an urgent one, only then they ask me what's the problem, 90% of the time the receptionist will tell me they'll contact the doctor and get back in touch, which happens within the hour. The GP can then expedite an appointment or talk to you the same day over the phone.

If I'm not happy with waiting 2-4 days for the appointment, I can go to a medical centre, wait a couple of hours and see a doctor. I can also attend an Urgent Care Clinic for urgent conditions that are not life threatening without an appointment.

Few of you blaming "stupid people" realise how the NHS in the basic primary role as a health provider in his serious shit.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 19/06/2025 10:22

Mine will no longer make an appointment unless you are under 16 or don't have internet access. I was in reception and a woman asked to make an appointment and she was given an iPad and told to do it herself.

For me it generally works very well, although I'm getting fed up with it fobbing me off with the physician associate. I've been getting joint pain that I think could be linked to the menopause and I want to see a particular GP but can't get past the bloody system. If it allows you to see a GP you get a choice but I can't get that far. Last time I phoned I was told reception can no longer help me.