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Why tell the receptionist why I'm seeing the doctor

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Eldermileniummam · 19/06/2025 07:23

Why do they ask this? Is it so they can give you an appointment with the appropriate person or some other reason?

I usually don't mind but sometimes I'm embarrassed to say and never sure how specific I need to be.

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Parker231 · 19/06/2025 20:16

Oneinamil · 19/06/2025 20:02

I loathe it when asked date of birth and name as to me it violates the data protection act, and when there is a room full of quiet patients. So I write my details on a note and show to the receptionist, it works for me.

It’s not a breach - it depends on what it is needed for. In this case it’s identification so not a problem.

Silsatrip · 19/06/2025 20:17

BeamMeUpCountMeIn · 19/06/2025 07:25

So they can prioritise requests. It might also be so they can allocate them to the best GP, they all seem to have a specialist area.

This, I think.

Umbrella15 · 19/06/2025 20:25

Alonebutmarried · 19/06/2025 08:00

This really winds me up - GP receptionists are not even remotely medically trained, and should not be triaging patients.

Well said. I am a nurse and I do think that sometimes, gp receptionists dont have a clue. I have personal experience of this.Once when my son was very ill, but according to the receptionist I could go to my local pharmacy instead of seeing a gp because he only had a virus, (turned out he had meningitis). Another time I was told I didnt need a sick note because I had only broken my arm, despite telling her what my job was. When I got to see a gp, she agreed and gave me a sick note for 6 weeks.

Hmm1234 · 19/06/2025 20:28

I agree but they sort of act like a triage before you speak to an actual doctor to make sure lack of appointments go to the most needed cases or to tell you to go the pharmacist and get something over the counter

TiredAH · 19/06/2025 20:31

You don’t have to share the information. They ask you because the doctors have asked them to do this.
That helps GP prioritise their calls, because a chest pain will definitely take priority over discussing a letter to get your implant removed.

DemonsandMosquitoes · 19/06/2025 20:36

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 07:34

This has been going on for years. Most of us are intelligent enough to know whether we need to see a doctor, nurse or whoever without being made to disclose our medical information to some unqualified jumped up receptionist. .

Bahahahahahaha
Practice nurse

Silsatrip · 19/06/2025 20:36

Our GP surgery seems to

  • give priority to sick children - they will try and fit them in (they might do this to other vulnerable too.)
  • one doctor gets most of the women's health ones
  • female doctors do smear tests, breast health - I've never been assigned to a male for smear / breast lump in the regular surgery.
Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 20:37

Silsatrip · 19/06/2025 20:36

Our GP surgery seems to

  • give priority to sick children - they will try and fit them in (they might do this to other vulnerable too.)
  • one doctor gets most of the women's health ones
  • female doctors do smear tests, breast health - I've never been assigned to a male for smear / breast lump in the regular surgery.

See my smear tests were always done by the nurse

Fanakerpan · 19/06/2025 20:39

DieSchottin93 · 19/06/2025 19:51

How is the receptionist supposed to assess if it's something that would warrant an emergency appointment if you refuse to tell them what it's for?

I had a patient like that recently, demanded to speak to the doctor that day and when I asked what the problem was they just replied "my health". Well, I gathered that much 🤦‍♀️
They spent several minutes complaining about how we're like "Fort Knox" and how hard it is to get an appointment. I then said it's not us being nosey, it's the doctor that asks us to ask these questions and if the doctor doesn't know why you're requesting an emergency appointment they will tell us you need to be offered a routine appointment. The magic words "the doctor" did the trick and they disclosed that they had been experiencing sharp abdominal pain for a couple of days which did indeed warrant an emergency appointment and I was able to add them to the list for the duty doctor to call that day. They could have saved us both 5 minutes if they'd just told me that from the start instead of being so vague.

My point was and is that it is NOT for a receptionist to assess the need for an appointment, as I said just book it, receptionists as valuable and necessary as they are, are there to book appointments, not sign post or triage, usually when ringing the GP, there is a pre recorded message to say if its an emergency then ring ring 999 for assistance, any patient with an acute abdomen ie severe abdominal pain etc requires emergency treatment needs the emergency services and not a GP. as I said the recorded message informs you of that.
A patient calling his/her GP is ring re his/her health why would they call otherwise?
Again it is not for an unqualified person to decide what the problem is, patronising anxious patients is not helpful either, I have no problem with receptionists per say, I have a very close friend who is a receptionist, I am also aware that people can be quite obnoxious on the phone, have been there and got the tee shirt to quote an old saying, speaking as a retired registered nurse who's last job was GP Out of Hours triage nurse, sometimes on the end of an irate caller who did not need emergency appointment, the reason for a qualified nurse doing telephone triage was obviously for our training, expertise and prior knowledge, a call handler put the calls through and I would triage and signpost as appropriate, a GP receptionist as already quoted is not there to determine the outcome of an appointment request.
I make no apologies for this long winded reply, a need to know basis should be the only reason for requiring details from a patient except for verifying name, address, date of birth etc not their reason for requesting an appt.

Whenim63 · 19/06/2025 20:40

I hate it. And no matter what you tell them, you cannot get an appointment. And no, you cannot make an appointment on line, or a phone consultation or any bloody thing else. You have to call at 8am (how supremely convenient for those of us that work!) hang on for at least an hour to be told to call back tomorrow, even for non urgent appointments because they only make those 4 weeks in advance and they’ve all gone. At my GP at least, the “service” part of the NHS has vanished.
I have entirely given up and use a private GP, which I assume is what they actually want people to do. Whilst still paying for the “service” of course. It’s shit.

BooneyBeautiful · 19/06/2025 20:45

Fr1tter5 · 19/06/2025 19:39

But some patients don’t respond to the generic one given by pharmacies.

Fair point, but I was just saying that most people can get antibiotics for a UTI from the pharmacy. These days it is generally nitrofurantoin, but obviously there are some people who need something different.

Parker231 · 19/06/2025 20:45

Whenim63 · 19/06/2025 20:40

I hate it. And no matter what you tell them, you cannot get an appointment. And no, you cannot make an appointment on line, or a phone consultation or any bloody thing else. You have to call at 8am (how supremely convenient for those of us that work!) hang on for at least an hour to be told to call back tomorrow, even for non urgent appointments because they only make those 4 weeks in advance and they’ve all gone. At my GP at least, the “service” part of the NHS has vanished.
I have entirely given up and use a private GP, which I assume is what they actually want people to do. Whilst still paying for the “service” of course. It’s shit.

There are more people wanting an appointment than there are appointments. Don’t know what you think the practice can do.

Coffeebeanzz · 19/06/2025 20:47

I also assume receptionists have access to everyone's files so will be able to see everything anyway. I know it's not the same as having to explain to them on the phone though

Fr1tter5 · 19/06/2025 20:47

Parker231 · 19/06/2025 20:45

There are more people wanting an appointment than there are appointments. Don’t know what you think the practice can do.

Not say their new online system is an improvement for a start or fair for working people.

MyHouseInThePrairie · 19/06/2025 20:52

@Whenim63 my old surgery was like that.
I had frustrating call with the receptionist.
me - I need an appointment with GP
her - why?
Me - I have high blood pressure. I’ve seen the nurse but I’m reacting to the meds. I can’t take them.
her - ha yes but we dint have anything. If you don’t take your meds for high BP, that’s serious you know
me - yes I know…. That's why I need to see the GP asap.
we went round like that about 3 times and she finally said:
‘Look this is serious. I’m going to book you an out of hour appointment …. With a nurse….’
(fwiw a nurse can’t prescribe a new med if the first one caused problems…)

Arrived at the appointment and I was told ‘oh we had to reorganise your appointment. It will be 15 mins later. Is that ok?’
Me - yes that’s fine. But why?
Them - you shouldn’t see the nurse but the GP with what you have ……🤯🤯🤯

I don’t know if it will help, but I was told then that if you can’t get an appointment for something to ring 111 and explain. They’ll get you an out of hours appointment. And it will get back to said surgery (as in ‘you’re not doing your job well!)
When I saw the GP, he said ‘oh … you’re at xyz surgery … we get loads people from there …..’

MyHouseInThePrairie · 19/06/2025 20:55

Parker231 · 19/06/2025 20:45

There are more people wanting an appointment than there are appointments. Don’t know what you think the practice can do.

I don’t know.
My old surgery was awful for that.

My new one? I have an appointment in the next week.
On the day of your turn at 8.00am (you take a ticket and wait)
Theres no appointment needed to have your blood taken. You just pop round to see the phlebotomist.
Thats NHS, exactly the same than my old. They’re only a few miles apart. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Whenim63 · 19/06/2025 21:11

Parker231 · 19/06/2025 20:45

There are more people wanting an appointment than there are appointments. Don’t know what you think the practice can do.

Lets see. Perhaps open up appointments more than 4 weeks in advance? Perhaps offer telephone appointments? Perhaps embrace some efficiencies?
And what does my practice think people who cannot afford a private gp can do? Just get more and more unwell and eventually need hospitalisation or emergency treatment elsewhere? The level of “care” they are providing is not ok. And yes, I work with the general public. If I treated them the way my GP behaves? I’d be out of a job because my business would fail.

ZippyRaven · 19/06/2025 21:14

Whenim63 · 19/06/2025 21:11

Lets see. Perhaps open up appointments more than 4 weeks in advance? Perhaps offer telephone appointments? Perhaps embrace some efficiencies?
And what does my practice think people who cannot afford a private gp can do? Just get more and more unwell and eventually need hospitalisation or emergency treatment elsewhere? The level of “care” they are providing is not ok. And yes, I work with the general public. If I treated them the way my GP behaves? I’d be out of a job because my business would fail.

I've never had an issue with getting an appointment. Never called before 9.30am either

Whenim63 · 19/06/2025 21:15

MyHouseInThePrairie · 19/06/2025 20:52

@Whenim63 my old surgery was like that.
I had frustrating call with the receptionist.
me - I need an appointment with GP
her - why?
Me - I have high blood pressure. I’ve seen the nurse but I’m reacting to the meds. I can’t take them.
her - ha yes but we dint have anything. If you don’t take your meds for high BP, that’s serious you know
me - yes I know…. That's why I need to see the GP asap.
we went round like that about 3 times and she finally said:
‘Look this is serious. I’m going to book you an out of hour appointment …. With a nurse….’
(fwiw a nurse can’t prescribe a new med if the first one caused problems…)

Arrived at the appointment and I was told ‘oh we had to reorganise your appointment. It will be 15 mins later. Is that ok?’
Me - yes that’s fine. But why?
Them - you shouldn’t see the nurse but the GP with what you have ……🤯🤯🤯

I don’t know if it will help, but I was told then that if you can’t get an appointment for something to ring 111 and explain. They’ll get you an out of hours appointment. And it will get back to said surgery (as in ‘you’re not doing your job well!)
When I saw the GP, he said ‘oh … you’re at xyz surgery … we get loads people from there …..’

Thank you for that. And I’m sorry you’ve had a similar experience, it’s such a waste of everyone’s time??
I really don’t think it’s all gps but when you get a bad one, it’s time consuming and very frustrating. Fortunately I don’t need my gp very often at all but I will bear in mind 111 for the future.

Whenim63 · 19/06/2025 21:16

ZippyRaven · 19/06/2025 21:14

I've never had an issue with getting an appointment. Never called before 9.30am either

Good for you. We clearly are registered at different practices!

Speckly · 19/06/2025 23:34

Our GP practise has openly said it’s a triage system but seriously, I think this could be dangerous! What skills do receptionists have to triage or even ask the most pertinent questions. Also people may not answer 100% honestly because it’s the receptionist and not the doctor, especially in front of everyone in the waiting room!

Bonbonthechewyone · 19/06/2025 23:40

Fanakerpan · 19/06/2025 20:39

My point was and is that it is NOT for a receptionist to assess the need for an appointment, as I said just book it, receptionists as valuable and necessary as they are, are there to book appointments, not sign post or triage, usually when ringing the GP, there is a pre recorded message to say if its an emergency then ring ring 999 for assistance, any patient with an acute abdomen ie severe abdominal pain etc requires emergency treatment needs the emergency services and not a GP. as I said the recorded message informs you of that.
A patient calling his/her GP is ring re his/her health why would they call otherwise?
Again it is not for an unqualified person to decide what the problem is, patronising anxious patients is not helpful either, I have no problem with receptionists per say, I have a very close friend who is a receptionist, I am also aware that people can be quite obnoxious on the phone, have been there and got the tee shirt to quote an old saying, speaking as a retired registered nurse who's last job was GP Out of Hours triage nurse, sometimes on the end of an irate caller who did not need emergency appointment, the reason for a qualified nurse doing telephone triage was obviously for our training, expertise and prior knowledge, a call handler put the calls through and I would triage and signpost as appropriate, a GP receptionist as already quoted is not there to determine the outcome of an appointment request.
I make no apologies for this long winded reply, a need to know basis should be the only reason for requiring details from a patient except for verifying name, address, date of birth etc not their reason for requesting an appt.

You must have been retired for a long time then, otherwise you would be aware that receptionists are trained to triage and work together with the clinical staff to achieve this.
Must be a great view from that high horse.

teksquad · 19/06/2025 23:42

What training do GP receptionists receive for medical triage?

Mumble12 · 19/06/2025 23:45

Speckly · 19/06/2025 23:34

Our GP practise has openly said it’s a triage system but seriously, I think this could be dangerous! What skills do receptionists have to triage or even ask the most pertinent questions. Also people may not answer 100% honestly because it’s the receptionist and not the doctor, especially in front of everyone in the waiting room!

The same skills as 111 operators who aren’t medically trained but are able to triage calls.

Fanakerpan · 20/06/2025 00:16

DieSchottin93 · 19/06/2025 19:51

How is the receptionist supposed to assess if it's something that would warrant an emergency appointment if you refuse to tell them what it's for?

I had a patient like that recently, demanded to speak to the doctor that day and when I asked what the problem was they just replied "my health". Well, I gathered that much 🤦‍♀️
They spent several minutes complaining about how we're like "Fort Knox" and how hard it is to get an appointment. I then said it's not us being nosey, it's the doctor that asks us to ask these questions and if the doctor doesn't know why you're requesting an emergency appointment they will tell us you need to be offered a routine appointment. The magic words "the doctor" did the trick and they disclosed that they had been experiencing sharp abdominal pain for a couple of days which did indeed warrant an emergency appointment and I was able to add them to the list for the duty doctor to call that day. They could have saved us both 5 minutes if they'd just told me that from the start instead of being so vague.

My point is that receptionists are not there to make an assessment of whether a patient needs an emergency appointment, their job is to book it, with the greatest of respect receptionists are not qualified to make a medical assessment.
When a patient rings a GP surgery a pre recorded message usually plays informing the patient that an emergency ie an acute abdomen ie severe abdominal etc the caller is advised to ring 999, there they will be triaged and appropriate advice and action will happen, this of course varies from surgery to surgery, area to area.
I speak as an Out of Hours triage nurse (RGN) so I know something of what I speak.
The GP receptionist is there to book appointments, not triage and signpost, the patient and doctor relationship and who has access to information regarding a patients diagnosis is highly confidential and subject to data protection.
I am not being critical and am fully aware of how occasionally difficult patients can be, often being on the receiving end when triaging in out of hours but I do know that a patient is often stressed and do prefer to speak directly with a nurse or doctor about often sensitive personal health conditions, preferring to get their appointments without having to tell someone other than a health professional what their symptoms are.